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writes:I need some advice if that's possible. I met my partner abroad and moved from a northern little town to a big city to be with him. I hate city life I have a job as a manager and he works for his family business. After being together a year he's lost interest probably as I haven't made any friends and I'm stuck for things to do all the time so lost most of my confidence, I don't keep him on his toes.I don't even know who I am anymore. Recently I've found out I'm pregnant which was a massive shock, he doesn't want me to have it but said he'll support me , at this time he decides to go off the rails, drink, drugs, leave me crying for days while I'm stuck at home with no one. After many episodes he decides he's depressed and can't be there for me so has split up with me and left me to move in with his parents and sell his house as he hates the responsibility. All this I'm left alone, crying and pregnant. I've handed in my notice and will return to my town only problem is I'm homeless, jobless , no money and in debt , I have no one to support me or take me in. I'm so lost , down and can't help but feel like I'm drowning. How is this going to get better ?
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 March 2016):
 Are you able to talk to his parents and tell them the situation that you are in? You are carrying there grand child after all. Maybe they might help you with accommodation so that you can keep working until the baby is due. You may not like the city but it might be your only choice at the moment to have a steady income until your baby is born.
If this is not an option then move back to your home town, but what is there for you? Surely you have family or friends that can help you until you get back on your feet? If you do then ask then for help and start looking for work immediately. Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 March 2016): your hometown is small right? I don't know what resources are in your town or in your country or if there is larger town or city nearby. is there a shelter in that town? You said you had a job but you quit it but you had nothing saved up? Are you close enough to his parents where they can trust you with money for several months rent? I'm thinking that wherever you live, is there cash assistance and low income housing? I don't know if you have food stamps or the equivalent so I'm not assuming things. anyway, what are your resources there and are they able to loan you something so that you can get started? that's the important thing, making sure if you have a roof over your head and pregnancy and post pregnancy care. you may not be able to live in your town right away, but even if it was a bigger city if it were at least closer that woulI could friends and acquaintances from there I could visit and you can reach out to them through social media so that you're at least talking. once baby is old enough, you could get a part time job and save money or see if Public Assistance will allow you to move to your hometown. as for making friends, see if there are classes for pregnant women and even if you only talk to them there, you could exchange phone numbers and at least that would be some socialization. also, if you are interested in a place of worship, you would at least have people to talk to. it is hard with children but if there are free classes for people with babies, I would go to as many possible if I were you to keep you from being so isolated. maybe some of those women there could help you with transportation. just please let us know what resources are in your area because I don't know what they are called in your area. whatever prenatal clinic you go to or whatever welfare or social services is called there, they should have phone numbers and names of other people and places who help out
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