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*oveitlongtime
writes: Hi guys. I'll keep it short: I am 22 he is 28. Recently I've caught him staring , to a point where it is just too much. When I catch him he continues to stare back into my eyes. Sometimes he'll stare at me with these eyes and just automatically get frustrated and walk away, this has happened also to during conversation. Yesterday he came over to me on the floor to ask if he could stretch me. I said yes, He literally threw my legs over my head and was literally on top of me; when he was done he looks at me and goes "can I get your phone number" today at the gym he came over to me again and was licking his lips like crazy telling me he was so tired he didn't go to bed till 2 am ( he just wouldn't stop licking his lips which I've never seen before) today he kept checking up on me to see what I was doing and was just staring, blatantly staring / when I was stretching on the mat he came over to me and goes "wow you don't like my stretches anymore" I told him I was in a rush it wasn't personal, he went and leaned on my legs and started to put my leg behind my head again, he then told me all he wanted to do was go home and smoke a joint.. And told me he only lived 40 minutes from here.. And the catch - supposedly he has a girl. I am very confused with the intense staring , if i could give you a example its no blinks large pupils and a lot of lurking around the gym to walk by me and stare. Reply to this Question
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (7 March 2016):
 He doesn't sound like a genuine personal trainer. If he was am pretty sure he should be more professional. Not telling clients that he is going home to smoke drugs. I agree with Honeypie his is probably staring, licking his lips and being so touchy feely because he is on something. The best thing you can do is stay away from him and ask him not to touch you again.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (6 March 2016):
 Sounds like he is on "something". And when I say "something" I mean drugs.
Both marijuana and stimulants like cocaine, speed, crack, amphetamines can dilate the pupils. Cocaine and other stimulants (which he might use to stay awake for work) can give a user dry mouth, hence the lip licking. Also users be very talkative, but conversation lacks continuity, changes subjects rapidly. He might not be aware of just HOW much he is staring at you.
I have know several pot users over the years, they can be a BIT touchy feely and mellow. He seems a bit more on edge than that.
So he might do one or the other... or both.
I would not give him my number, and I would ask him to not touch me unless I have ASKED for help in stretching or whatnot. He is definitely crossing the line in what is professional and what is not. Him being NOT professional.
I don't think it's because he is into you, I think it's the drugs affecting him. Specially if he blends pot with stimulants.
What you describe I would find CREEPY and inappropriate.
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