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writes:my boyfriend left me nine months ago we were together just under 3years and since i have been put on anti depressents and ended up in hospital due to an overdose. still feel i cant cope and love him so much, my life just feels worthless without him and dont know what to do please please help?
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 June 2007): I know what your going through babygirl. It's hard and I know you've heard it a million times but it gets easier. The main this I learned from it all it talk about it, at all times. Talk to anyone that will listen. your mind is your worst enemy, the more you think about a problem the worse it becomes. Seriously talk to people, anytime a though crosses your mind blurt it out. I was told to get paper and write things down, not like a journal but just scribble, like questions that no one will be abe to answer, cuss, say how hurt you are. Then after your done throw it away. I know it sounds stupid but it really works. Talking and writing are the best way to get emotions out and work over your problems. Best of luck to you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 June 2007): I recommend that you find a book by Scott M Peck, "The Road Less Traveled". If you study and comprehend the message of what love really is, it will set you free.
You do not need this man to live your life, what you need is to stop wallowing in self pity and denial, the relationship ended 9 long months ago, stop punishing yourself, it does not mean there is something inherently wrong with you, but there was something wrong with him and your relationship was not going to survive because he did not want to love you, he may have been incapable of it...that is about him, not you.
Pick yourself up, get a makeover, eat better, get some sleep, buy a new outfit, get a new haircut, and get out in the world. The best way to make yourself feel better, and get out of a depression is to make yourself listen to other people, start caring what they have to say, and decide to be a friend to someone, even if it is for an hour....volunteer at your local charity or hospital, you have value because you are here on the planet, don't let one guy, one relationship put and end to you....
He wasn't the one, and if you end up alone, like me, life goes on, and you can be very happy on your own....in fact you need to get to a place where you are happy with yourself and your own company alone, before you can really be happy and secure with anyone else.....he is probably out there, but you won't find him in your living room in your jammies now will you?
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