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writes:Hey guys...i am desperate...I am with my boyfriend for a year now and we love eachother alot although we had problems in the start as he had a girlfriend when we met and had to break up with her. Well we fell so deeply in love that 2 months ago he gave me a ring and we decided to start a family too. Now i have to say that he is from the states but we live in europe and he is an afroamerican and i am caucasian. His ex lives in the states. 2 weeks ago he had to go back to the states to see his family and for business and he is staying there for 8 weeks. Since he got there he istalking to me just 5mins every time and doesnt even call, he just texts,he always says he has no time to skype but he has time to hang out and party with his friends. What he tells me bout his schedule never sounds right, and i found out that his ex is still living in the same apartment (they used to live with another guy sharing the apartment) cuz she didnt find a new place yet....she obviously wants him back and is making trouble ever since between us,but he promises they are nothing but friends and i should not worry bout her at all...the other thing is that his family is not ok with him dating a white girl. I took a vacation he knew bout next week so i can go and see him,but he is avoiding the topic.i have the feeling he doesnt want me to come cuz he cant stand by me cuz all his friends just know him being with his ex the past 5 yrs, his mom doesnt even know we are together. AND I am pregnant! We were both very happy when we found out 3 weeks ago but right now i feel very alone and am scared i will end up raising this child alone. I dont wanna put too much pressure on him but i need clearance and it seems to me he is not able to make me feel good bout it anymore. I also thought he might have be with his ex and we talked bout it but he swears there is nothing going on and i am his future wife....HELP
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 June 2012): thank you for the respnse,in the meanwhile i did what u told me and tried to talk to him...well first of all he doesnt wanna talk bout that at all...2nd...he answered me following: i can not come and visit him because "that would cause too much stress"...he doesnt want me to meet his mom before the baby is here...and last but not least he lied to me yesterday saying he cant skype because he is in another town but was stupid enough to twitter he had a nice dinner with his ex in his hometown...you still think i am jumping to conclusions?? :(
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (31 May 2012):
 I think you are jumping to conclusions here. Just because his ex is there does not mean that he is back together with her. If you are worried he does not want you to go and visit him next week then send him a message and tell him about your worries. It does sound bad that he has not told his parents about you yet though, considering you are pregnant with his child they should know that he is dating you. So I can understand why you are worried about that. However I can also see why you would be insecure about his ex as well considering he broke up with a girl to be with you, am sure you are thinking what would stop him doing the same to you. I think you both need to sit down and sort this out together.
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