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writes:i am only a teenager. I am Expectin a baby. The Father and i are friends at school. but we fall out a lot. there is 2 reasons for this. he was adhd. lets call him lil for now. lil also has anger issues. as we are both just 13 we are worried. he cant control his anger. i do not no what i will do if he lashes out either when and i am pregnant or when the baby is born. any ideas guys??? fanks Reply to this Question
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reader, ixixtabix  +, writes (15 January 2010):
You should start searching for help at school or in your community and attempt to get yourself and your boyfriend into counseling. HE needs to get his anger management in check. Try to seek out family support in case he does become violent so you will have a safe place to stay or women's shelters. Since your 13 it will be very hard to find employment. Please seek HELP even if you don't know whether you want or will keep the baby. The issue will still be your safety if he has been abuse before he will continue to do so. Please go and get help.
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reader, anonymous, writes (14 January 2010): I guess these are things you should have thought about before you had unprotected sex with someone, especially at your age. You cannot offer this child what they require either emotionally or financially. You need to seriously consider giving the baby up for adoption. There are loving couples out there, just waiting for an opportunity to add a child to their family. And they are ready both emotionally and financially in their lives for the huge responsibility as a baby. Giving a baby up for adoption is one of the most self-less thing a mother can do. You need to find someone to talk to. Please learn from this experience. You're young & have many years to have babies. At 13, you need to be hanging out with girlfriends & having fun talking about bnoys, not having sex. Your brain isn't even fully developed until you're in your 20's! You have your whole future ahead of you, so does this child, if you give it that opportunity.
Good luck in what you decide. Please find an adult you trust & confide in them for advice. :)
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