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*herrylvshim
writes:Hey im 36 weeks pregnant and i dont know what im going to do im in love with my babys father but i think that he has been lying to me the whole time me and him have been together and i think that the person he told me was his ex is not that they are still together i just dont know what to do he is in jail right now and i need help with this i have been thinking about what to do i just dont know
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): If your baby's father is in jail, then obviously he is not going to be a good influence on either one of you. Don't worry about him right now; concentrate on yourself and the baby. After you've given birth and had time to get your strength back and adjust, then you can decide what to do, but I would advise you to stay away from him. It sounds like he is bad news in more ways than one.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (29 December 2009):
 Sweetheart the last thing you need to concentrate on right now is anything other than yourself and your baby.
You should not be stressing out on maybe's and what if's.
You should be relaxing and keeping your blood pressure down as it is not good for you or your baby still growing inside of you.
You cannot change what has happened and so dwelling on it is not going to make a different outcome is it?
Your baby's father is in jail and isn't there for you right now.
Do you have family and friend's around you to help you through the birth of your baby and be supportive to you up to and past that event?
Why are you questioning it right now out of interest? You have either find out something or someone has enlightened you in some way?
Whatever the answer is to my question above, you are not in the right condition to try and deal with it right now.
At 36 weeks pregnant you need to be able to put your feet up to stop them from swelling and get as much rest as you possibly can.
Believe me once your baby is born you may not get a lot of that right away. If you are being offered help in any way before the birth or after it, don't be too proud, take the help. Pride comes before a fall so they say and if someone offers to help you out with ironing, cleaning or just allowing you to get some sleep if you need it, then take it. Obviously only if it is someone you trust around your baby like close family or trusted friend's but none the less, don't try and be wonder woman, I know from my own experience when my daughter was born, that NO ONE is perfect no matter what we try to make others think.
Believe me once your baby arrives you will have an inner strength that you NEVER EVER thought you would have. You would kill to keep your baby safe and sound. You have to put YOURSELF and your CHILD first and your baby's father may have helped to conceive this child but it does not mean that he is fit enough to be the father, always remember that a father can be anyone who is loving and giving not someone who supplies the sperm OK.
If he is no good then kick him to the kerb OK. Don't rush anything right now. Get the facts first but don't put your health at risk right now to prove them. Don't haul your backside to go and see him either - if that is something you have been doing. If you have had contact them keep it to a minimum until you know what you want to say to him but don't accuse him until you know for sure OK.
Babies don't always arrive on time, then sometimes come early like my daughter did so just de stress and chill out right now but make sure you have a good support network around you OK.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
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P.S. Wish you so much luck and love with your little one, they are the best thing ever, trust me.
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