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writes:Ok so im pregnant.. and me and the guy decided to take some time apart... i dont know if that was such a good idea.. i still love him.. but the break up didn't seem to bother him any... he's already moved on.. and it hasn't even been a day.. it hurts me when i see him with another girl.. sometimes i end up crying myself to sleep... and when i try to tell him he just blows me off.. what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 October 2008): Hey there. I know how you are feeling my baby's father left me when I was 3 months pregnant and he got another girl pregnant almost immediately. But you know what, I kept my baby, and she is now 4 and has a daddy, my husband. And even if I didn't find him I would still be happy with my baby girl. Forget this guy, he's a jerk, the baby is number 1 in your life and will fill the spot he left empty. I know it's hard, and it will be hard for a while until you can tell yourself that you and your baby can do better and deserve better. I hope you and your child have a wonderful life, hang in there!
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 October 2008): Hello there. In my opinion I think what you should do now, is make a emotional disconnection here to this fellow and think of the baby..top priority. If you are planning to keep this child, then you will have to look ahead and start making plans. You need to be very, very strong and you need to be willing to put the needs of this new baby before your own desires and needs. Because as it sits, your ex is not committed and he isn't behaving in a manner that will ensure he can be a quality, supportive partner to you. He could get to that point, with maturity in a few years, but you and this baby need him, now. He is still the father of your child and nothing will excuse him from that responsibility. My suggestion: Get talking to family members or people you can trust and you know who loves you. (Mother, father sisters, Aunts, close friends) You need their support--this baby will need their love and support to flourish and grow in a healthy way. Find out if you can get some legal counsel, on ensuring this baby's father takes on that responsibility, because I am sensing a 'bail out' here, on his part. He will have to find a way to financially support his baby and be a father, to this child. And he has to realize that he will be connected to you, until this child is an adult. This is serious..this is the life of a child who deserves to know it's father.
I know it is hard to let go of this fellow, but all I can say to that...is by working through the hurt, you will make room in your heart, for that special day, when someone else walks into your life. Someone who will treat you well and accept what you bring to the table. I would guess that someday, it will feel fantastic, to have someone else who is mature, faithful and responsible..to come into your life. For now, look after your baby and look after yourself. Get some love, support and help from your family. That is what you need now, the most. I really hope it all works out for you, hun. Take care and best wishes. xx
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