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*onfusedbutdeeplyinlove
writes:I'm in a long distant relationship and I'm finding it very very hard to trust him we have been together for 8 months it'll be 9 this month on the 23rd and I really have no reason not to trust him I mean yeah he's lied to me a few times but they were small and he's got a lot of girls that are friends and he's still friends with some of his exes. He has been in 18 different relationships including me and I really really love him but I'm really afraid he will leave me and not wanna be with me or that he will lie again or is still lieing help me I don't know what to do I love him very much and wanna stay with him because I love him so very much and can't live without him and I need him. we haven't met yet either but we will hopefully soon and when we meet I'm planning on going to live with him after but I need help trusting him and knowing what to do.
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reader, maggie1987  +, writes (18 November 2007):
 you have only been with this guy 8 months and its a long distance relationship i think you should take a steb backwards rather than a step forwards as he as lied to you it doesnt matter how small the lies are thats something that should tell you its not the right time to move in with him especially if you cant trust him. maybe if you want to be with him that much you could go visit him for a short time and get him to come visit you and if you's still feel the same after abother 10 months then maybe start thinking about moving in otherwise it will all end in tears. you cant know everything about someone in 8 months
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reader, Dr. John +, writes (18 November 2007):
 You haven't even met him and yet he has lied to you and has had 18 girls before you?!
You had better take a step back and look at this situation objectively.
Look at this kind of relationship from the shoes of someone else and tell yourself what you would tell a friend in a situation like this.
Be honest. Do you really think a relationship like this would have the same chance as an ice cube in a jet engine?
I think it would be quite a stretch to think that anything lasting could come of it. Doc
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