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writes:Hi everyoneIm with a great guy and have been for 9 months Recently he moved closer to me which is great. At frist i guess i had trouble with us getting more complacent as we wernt being so into one another when we met up as we were seeing more of each other Before that we just saw each other once a week if thatHe has kids from a previous relationship which im fine with He is older than me (im in my 20s hes in his 30s) He is also my first 'proper' bfI sometimes worry aboout things with us tho he doesnt worry hardly at all and is much more relaxed I get anxious when we are apart Like if he goes away or visiting his kids I know it sounds silly but i just miss him so much that if i sent a text and he doesnt reply i start thinking loadsa stuff (hes gone off me, iv annoyed him.....) and end up getting in a state until he texts backAlso last night i was at his and the went out for 5 mins I playfully rang his phone to say something cheeky and it said number busy When he got back i asked who he was talking to and he said he said someone outside and he hadnt been on the phone (he didnt know id rung him) Now my minds thinking all kindsa stuff again and im begining to worry Hes going away for a week next week and i dont want him to leave with me worrying coz i know ill have a bad weekis all this worring normal Does any one have any words of wisdom or adviceThanks
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2007): Wendyg is spot on! I have been there myself in the past. I have sent my bloke a text and nothing all day, he has been busy, well, i thought i was number one in his head. No, blokes can get side-tracked and basically forget. They don't have the same type of brain as us girlies. We always have time to think of them, phone or text them, but it doesn't always work both ways. Don't worry about it, he is a bloke!
Take care and enjoy what you have
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reader, Wendyg +, writes (30 March 2007):
 Hey!
Its all pretty normal hun to be feeling like this. Men are always more laid back about things than us.. Well in my experience anyway!
Doesnt mean he feels any less for you hes just taking it more in his stride. hes moved closer to you and thats a good thing!
Relationships always lose the first glow and get an afterglow, but that also grows and changes in time. Its nothing to worry about its just normal! Doesnt mean hes gone off you, he just doesnt show it like us women, some do some dont, hes just a more laid back kinda guy, which should be cool hun, hes with you remember and things are still good!
Now the calling thing... Hun to him he probably didnt remember the call... Dont automaticlly assume because hes not talking to you that its another women! He could innocently have been outside talking to someone his phone rang answered it at the exact same time you called and it showed as engaged... it was probably a nothign call and didnt mean anything... Or the network could have been playing up... Its happend to me before a slight blip.
To men the odd call here and there really dont mean a thing, he would have slipped his mind.. so dont over analysis it and dont dis trust his intentions, the second you start to doubt him all sorts enters the head! Stuff that isnt there stuff we invent, we can be so irrational at times us women. Have faith in your man.
Now take things in your stride, dont second guess it, relax and chill and enjoy it or you will lose it hun!
Take care x x
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