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writes:Hi there. I'm a heterosexual man, but I've been stuck with this since I started to feel sexual needs. What I have is pretty weird: I'm attracted to girls, but the only sexual activity I'm interested in are blowjobs. I don't like women vaginas, I am not interested in normal sex, or oral sex performed on a woman. The only thing I am really interested in doing is receiving head.Now it's a bit of a problem when having a girlfriend. But the questions that are on my mind are: is this normal? And am I the only one? I've been searching on the internet but didn't find anyone having the same problem.Thanks to whoever replies.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 September 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionIt doesn't matter, althought I like it better when the girl has her clothes on for some reason (or at least just barely, I like myself some mystery)
I'm not scared of pregnancy at all, because it simply has to do with vaginas. I would even go as far as to say it turns me off to see a vagina. And that's obviously a problem
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reader, anonymous, writes (5 September 2016): When you watch porn, I assume you only like to watch men receiving BJs. Does the woman have to be naked for you to enjoy watching or does it not matter?
I wonder if you are scared of pregnancy or something?
Once you are in a committed relationship and maybe get to have condomless intercourse, I bet you'll find it feels great.
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHaha, true! But I don't have a lot of luck when it comes to actual love these days. If I really find my soulmate, I wouldn't mind doing what I don't like purely for her but where most guys would enjoy it, I very probably wouldn't.
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reader, chigirl  +, writes (23 August 2016):
 Yes, sexuality is not fixed, it is ever changing. How much varies from person to person, we often stay within the same "box" as before, but trying out different shades, for the lack of a better analogy. Like... You will probably still prefer women and blowjobs, but with time might grow into liking other things as well, and develop a different style of what you like. Also, doesnt sound like your experiences have involved emotional attachment. If not, falling in love could end up changing your sexual preferance greatly.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThe idea of a man performing a blowjob doesn't really interest me. Althought you are half-right, because my first sexual experience was indeed receiving head by a woman, and it could be the cause of my obsession with it.After searching a bit on the internet, I have found some other persons with the exact same condition, meaning that they do not like vaginas but are still very well attracted to females. Maybe it'll change with time?
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reader, Youcannotbeserious  +, writes (20 August 2016):
 Would a blow job from a male be as appealing as from a female? Perhaps you are just not into women - because woman have vaginas, whether you like it or not. My guess would be you have watched a lot of porn and have a very fixed idea of what you find pleasing sexually. Am I right?
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reader, chigirl +, writes (20 August 2016):
I don't think this is normal. Or, maybe common is the word Im looking for, because what is "normal" is such a wide topic. It's normal in the sense that I don't think you suffer any conditions, it's normal to you. But it isn't common. I've never heard of it before.
Actually, saying that you have this preference, and saying that you actually are NOT interested in vaginas, suggests that you're not straight. Not saying you are homosexual. But you aren't heterosexual either. But there are many different sexualities and people come up with new names to label their sexuality every day, so I am sure you will find something that fits you if you just look further into it. Although, what's the point? You like what you like, and whether or not it has a name is really irrelevant.
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reader, janniepeg  +, writes (20 August 2016):
 Although rare, I am sure you are not the only one. There are women who are not into vaginal sex because of fear of pregnancy or whatever hangup they have. There's actually a girl here asking whether she could find someone she could blow because she has school and career to think about and she doesn't have time to worry about pregnancy and the drama that comes in relationships. Scientifically speaking, the vagina is cleaner than the mouth.
There is always an ick factor in sex, no matter if it's the penis or the vagina. Most people overcome it by focusing on their partners' pleasure. It's only a problem if you can't stay erect during normal sex and your girlfriends all think you are selfish, instead of being in a condition you can't control.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (20 August 2016):
 You say the word "heterosexual" but perhaps there's a more accurate term. Autosexual doesn't fit.
Selfisexual?
Let's explore this by asking if you met a woman who only wanted to receive oral sex, what would you say about that and would you be willing to be her boyfriend?
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2016): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionWell, I'm of course willing to give something back, to you know... Not be selfish. I think it's normal in a successful relationship. But I can't say I'm enjoying it, and that's the problem, it feels like I'm the only one bothered by it.
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (19 August 2016):
 I can't say what's normal, but I can tell you that you will end up not getting squat when you GIVE squat.
It's utterly selfish to think ANY woman would be content with JUST giving head and receiving nothing in return sexually.
What exactly is the problem for you with women's vaginas? Maybe you should start there.
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