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anonymous
writes:i have been in a relationship for 15 yr. we have two kids' and about 2 yr ago he was injured on a job and was on workmans comp., well that case ended and then he opened up a new case for total disability or more money? anyway he has not been working or bringing in income and pretty much just lays around the house on prescribed meds., i am not saying he isn't in pain or anything but the meds have changed him and frankly i do not want to be with him anymore but am afraid of hurting him while he is so dependent on me. he is unable to take care of himself without a job or any money and i do need alot of his help watching the kids' since i work full time and go to school part time, if i have him leave who will watch the kids etc., i am also afraid of hurting the kids' but i am miserable and don't want to pretend that i want to be with him anymore....how do i get out??
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reader, NoProblem  +, writes (11 August 2008):
 the best thing you to do is have a chat with your husband about this.
It will be the best thing for you and your children. Having you bring them up in an environment where you do not love your husband anymore will teach your children to do the same and maybe be scared to tell people they used to love they dnt any more.
Because of the hours you work and your husband watches the children if you get a divorce there will be discussion to sort out and arrange times where you can work and the children are looked after etc.
However, as said by Emilysanswers you could just remain household mates because of the hours you work and your husband being ill and dependant on your own. This may be a better result than have to be worried to make sure your children are okay etc.
Good luck
i look forward to a follow up
xxxx
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reader, anonymous, writes (11 August 2008): I can't understand why really you want to leave him: it feels like you have other reasons besides the things mentioned here, I mean you have 2 kids and he was injured while working for the family so what is the real reason behind this? If, maybe he stopped working because he is lazy or something, you have a good reason to kick him out but this doesn't seem to be the case, or is it?
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (11 August 2008):
Tell him you want to split up.
But tell him you know how impractical it is to kick him out so you want to remain friends and housemates for now.
If he knows he is driving you away then he might start putting in some effort to keep you.
If not then I bet he knows he needs you as much as you need him and hopefully things will stay civil.
Good Luck!! xx
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