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writes:Erection problems at 25... I have never had this problem before and it is quite embarrassing. I get really hard right before I am about to put it in but as I start intercourse it almost instantly goes slightly soft and shortly after goes all the way limp.I have full sensation and am enjoying myself throughout the whole thing but I don't know why it is going limp! It rarely happens when I masturbate also.I am confused and want a quick remedy but would like to stay far away from that little blue pill.Any advice on this? I just started taking multi-vitimins again, will those help?I had a sneaking suspicion that it was from added stress lately but I was having a really really good day a few days ago and it still happened.
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reader, JulietteElise +, writes (6 February 2007):
 I agree with everyone else that it is due to stress, and deffitly being worried that it will be limp causes stress and makes it happen. i know this is very embarresing, but there really shouldn't be any problems with going on a pill.
HOWEVER, there are some things you can try before this (besides just trying to to be as stressed, which might be hard because if you are trying not to be stressed you might become stressed). At many adult stores, and deffitly websites, there are diffrent things sold to help with this type of problem (and are often also used by men without this problem just to last longer, or keep going after they already have cum). Thus, try some cock rings. There are many diffrent styles, but the point of it is to go on your penis and stop your blood from flowing out untill you want it too. Some of them are snaps, some are rubber rings, some are pully like, and some actually go around your balls as well. Try getting a few diffrent ones, and if its the rings try a few diffrent sizes, to see if this will help at all, which it should (also, several of these cock rings also have a vibrating aspect which might be very pleasurable for your partner). A penis pump might help as well.... but you said you have no problem getting hard to begin with. There are also many types of lubes, lotions, sprays, or even organic pills that will help you stay hard, and even last longer. Many of these actually work! I really like the website adam and eve website (www.adameve.com) because there are reviews from people who bought all the diffrent products, and they actually show bad reviews along with good. There is the option of just getting a dildo or even strap on (weird as that sounds since you already have a penis) to keep pounding her till she cums even if you aren't hard, untill you are able to again (since you said you don't have this problem while masterbateing it means its most likely proformince anxiety thats makeing you limp).
relax and enjoy! though this is embarreshing, its nothing to be ashamed of.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 It's likely that it's stress. Try to get more sleep and eat a healthier diet and see if that helps. If not have a chat with your doctor. It's probably just a stage. I wouldn't worry
CD
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reader, mum2be +, writes (6 February 2007):
Stress is most pobably the cause of you inability to keep an erection. You should try to relax, and enjoy foreplay, and then take things slowly. Be aware that you are not alone, and that you partner is very unlikely to be put off. Next time you have sex, try not to think about anything other than the great time you are having, and if you are still enjoying your time with your partner, leave it at that until the stress in your life has reduced a bit.
Relax, breath and have fun!...
The rest will come before long!
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reader, dragonette  +, writes (6 February 2007):
 As you will notice I'm not a guy and I've never been the proud owner of a dick, but from knowing a few things about the tricks the human psyche can play on us I can tell you this much: If it happened to you a few times because of stress, it's not strange at all. It can also happen again now because you're worried about not keeping it up (which in itself causes a bit of stress).
So my advice to you would be to relax and when you have sex, be aware that it might happen (I'm sure your partner is cool with that also, so don't be embarrassed) and that there's nothing you can do about it.
I'm sure you will get your mojo back in a while =) If not, talk to your doctor and see if he has any creative suggestions. If you feel embarrassed about discussing it with the him, just remember that whatever you tell him, he probably heard it from quite a few other people in his life.
Good luck! =)
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reader, xkimx +, writes (6 February 2007):
 why dont u try viagra u may feel embarrased but the ladies love it
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