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writes: Hi I am only 15 years old, and I am worried about my reputation already! I lost my virginity in Feb of this year (I was 15) while in a relationship, but 2 weeks after we had sex, my boyfriend finished with me. Then in May I went on holiday, and on the last night I slept with this boy whom I didn't know very well. Then a month later, I slept with the boy I lost my virginity to again. About 2 weeks ago, when this boy asked to meet up with me last week, we ended up having sex. I haven't heard from this boy since, and I am afraid that I already have a name for myself. I am on the pill, but have only used a condom once with the boy on holiday. I am still very good friends with my 1st and have no regrets at all... apart from the boy from last week. I don't know what to do. I love sex but I know I must slow down. Please give me some advice.....
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2005): I did exactly the same thing but at a younger age and I realized that I wanted attention etc, but more importantly I couldn't say no, I felt like a child to say no and that I would be laughed at, but the first time I did say no really did make me feel better! I know that parents etc say that you should say no and they will like you more and you think what ever they won't like me because they never slept with me but it leaves it to the imagination and if you say no and they come back again and again and again and you know you like them then its worth it, otherwise why should you let them have access to your body then bin you off?
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx  +, writes (28 September 2005):
 I went through this phase when I was your age but I don't believe it's because you like sex so much. I know now that I was looking for attention, affection and acceptance from men and I ended up getting used for sex and called names.
Now, I'm in a happy relationship and know what sex really is. It's not a quick mess about with some loser you don't even like down an alley. It's a spiritual connection between two people in love who want to give themselves to each other completely.
I know you won't understand this yet but you will. You will find out what it's really about one day and wonder what you were doing. You're very young and it's dangerous to start having sex so young, mentally and physically. Have some self respect, some girl power and forget about guys for a while, concentrate on yourself and find out what's really going on. After all, whatever a man can do for us, we can do it better to ourselves! ;)
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