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writes:My ex boyfriend broke up with me almost 2 months ago. Since then I've been trying to talk to him and wanting to get back together with him, however he didn't return any of my calls or texts. Eventually I gave up and stopped contacting him but then last week he contacted me for the first time in 2 months asking how I was, suggesting we meet up sometime and saying that he's been thinking of me. Then this weekend he tells me he thought about it and thinks it would be a bad idea if we started things again. I was so upset when things ended, then I was so happy when he contact me thinking we might get back together and now I'm so upset again. He's putting me on such an emotional roller coaster. All my family and friends tell me he's not worth it and that I should completely let him go but I'm still so in love with him. I'm so lonely without him and I really don't want to give up on him. What do I do?
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reader, Ambassadeur Koko  +, writes (4 April 2011):
 Your problem is you keep on the memory of your love time and you keep associating with the surroundings where you use to move. If you want to forget about him, keep away from what reminds you of him. Don't visit places where you used to pass your time, accept it that he is gone and start a new life. Not only one woman can give birth to a handsome kid. There are more than he has out there. You deserve love and care.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): Firstly, I feel so bad for you. Unrequited feelings are the worst kind. You hang on to hope; you clutch at fantasies, you reminisce all the good stuff, think about what could have been, what could still be....You still have feelings for this person, that much is clear, don;t be ashamed of that. You're a human being. We all feel, sometimes for the wrong people. I do think you should try with all your might to move on from this man. I learnt the very hardest way possible that if a man wants you, he will let you know. Wasting emotions on those who will not return them is a fast track to mental anguish and heartbreak. Don't go down that route. Please.Take a deep breath. Think about our self-respect (this is so important). You will damage yourself if you chase this man or convince yourself that you can't let him go. You can. And you must.He's messed you around telling you he wantex to see you then didn't. Maybe this was not intentional, maybe it was. Who knows. It doesn't matter either way. In doing so he has played with your feelings. This is not the actions of someone who wants you back/cares about you.Please draw a line under this person. Do all you can to move forward in yourself. See friends, find a hobby, go on a holiday, re-train, anything to help keep your mind occupied. Do something that feeds yourself, don't waste time, love and energy on this person. You desreve better. Keep telling yourself that over and over until you believe it. Soon, he will shrink in your mind. I promise. Good luck xx
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 April 2011): i agree with dirtball , your creating your own drama here . if a guy is not calling or writing . let it go he is making it clear move on . you need to watch he is just not into you
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reader, dirtball +, writes (4 April 2011):
 Give it up. He's not yours anymore, and there's nothing left to hold onto but the past. The thing is, we can't go back, no matter how much we want to sometimes.I'd venture he wanted to meet to give you closure, sadly it was too soon for you and reopened wounds instead. You need to move on. Grieve this relationship and let it be part of your past. By the way, he isn't putting you on that rollercoaster, you've been doing that to yourself. That ride ended when you broke up. That's not to say he didn't in the past, but right now, it's no longer him. In his calls he didn't say he wanted to talk about getting back together, that was your hope.
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reader, Ambassadeur Koko +, writes (4 April 2011):
If you love him and want him the most then apologize to him if you are the one who broke up the relationship. Getting him back will make you feel free at heart. If you miss him you will be ever remembering how you missed the man of your life. If you miss him as well you won't love any other man because you still and will still think about him. it all depends on you, is he the man you need or you are blinded by love? Make a final decision.
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reader, Ambassadeur Koko +, writes (4 April 2011):
If you love him and want him the most then apologize to him if you are the one who broke up the relationship. Getting him back will make you feel free at heart. If you miss him you will be ever remembering how you missed the man of your life. If you miss him as well you won't love any other man because you still and will still think about him. it all depends on you, is he the man you need or you are blinded by love? Make a final decision.
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