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writes:Hello everybody. Hope we are all well!A quick question really, if anyone is able to let me know their opinions?Right, I'll try and keep this as short as I can.Basically, a few years ago I did meet a guy online. We hit it off, yeah, but as all things like this, feelings start to form don't they! So, I did create feelings for this guy. Because of our age (under 18/19) we didn't and couldn't really do anything about meeting up as there was education in the way and not access to amounts of money or a vehicle! Also to mention, because I was in school, the amount of bullying and picking on I had because of it, I didn't want him to come up to me (Part of me did, so that I could shove it in their faces, but part of me didn't - and the same feelings goes for now!)So, sad to say it ended there.Recently, one of our mutual friends mentioned him, and gave me his number. Of course I want to get in contact with him again! So, we text, we Skype, we call - just like we used to all those years ago.And now, the time has come when I do want to go and meet him. Who knows what will happen? Could be something great, or it might not, but at least I went, had the experience, and I know then!I will have to book time off work and so will he, but I do have a bit of a dilemma coming to actually getting there and back!My first idea is that, I go there (thinking train as cheaper, but may be car - I've never driven that distance before nor to the destination) which will take a number of hours.Secondly, meeting halfway and staying in a Hotel / Bed and Breakfast place / Guest House, something like that.Or Thirdly, Go down with 2/3 friends. Booking a hotel (for a long weekend I was thinking) and them like coming with me to meet him (just to make sure everything's OK, but then again, I have seen him loads of times on Skype already?) and then, them spending the weekend in the place by themselves? Or is that me being really cheeky asking them to do something like that?Is there any other ideas that anyone could think of? As I did mention before, yeah I would like him to come to me, but I just don't know where he would stay (If I went down to him I could stay with him, whereas with me I still live at home, and there's no room in my house!)Any help would be really appreciated!Have a good day.
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reader, anonymous, writes (22 July 2014): You can't bear leaving? OP, it's just a meet up. If it goes well, you can do it again a week or so after.
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reader, anonymous, writes (21 July 2014): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionThank you for your advice!
Would you think it would seem cheeky to ask a friend for that? I have spoken to a close friend about it before who seemed up for it, her partner works long distance throughout the week, and passes the place this guy lives, so we were thinking of him taking 3 of us down there and picking us up when he's coming home?
What if it goes good and we can't bare leaving? (Wishful thinking hahah)
Thank you both so much
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (21 July 2014):
 I think if an LDR is to work then both parties need to make an effort.
I vote for both of you going halfway and meeting... if the drive is not so bad to make it a day trip...
if you need to stay overnight.. SEPARATE rooms are in order... no need to tempt fate or temptation.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 July 2014): He could still turn out to be dodgy (fingers crossed he's not!) so better to be safe than sorry and, if you have a couple of friends who would be happy to go with you, DO IT! Make a weekend holiday out of it and spend a day with him alone (but in public places the whole time!) then have him around with your friends to show you all the best places to see (if your friends would be happy with that; they can always walk in front while you and he see how compatible you are in real life)! :)
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