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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:I’ve been with my boyfriend for a year and nine months but it’s a pretty weird relationship. We are both young I’m 18 (studying for my A levels) and he is 20 (at university) we get along great but we aren’t a proper couple, like I don’t go round his house and he doesn’t come round mine. I have met his parents and he has met mine so it’s nothing to do with that it’s something else. He has a brother who is 26 and has a girlfriend who is 24 and I am obsessed with her, not in a sexual way just obsessed with her. I don’t want a full grown up relationship nor does he as we both feel we are too young but I cannot stand the fact she is involved with his family and she sees my boyfriend more than me. I just feel so jealous when my bf even mentions her name. I have never met her and I just hate her, I even went as far as creating a fake face book account and added her friends and her just so I can see her profile. It rules my life because i continually check it. There will be times when I seem to ‘get over it’ and don’t even care and understood she is with X and doesn’t fancy my boyfriend at all and that my bf sees her as a sister. So I can’t understand why I’m so obsessed with her.Can anyone help me please? I feel like a stalker and a freak
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Hello,
Well first off I think you have self esteem issues. Maybe you feel she is more attractive than you. I'm 19 years old and feel like such a little girl when I'm around grown women because I feel like I have a little girl body and that they are far more attractive than me. Reality is that your time will come when you will be her age and probably look twice as good. If I'm wrong about that then maybe the problem is that your jealous of her because she often goes to your boyfriends house, a privilege that you may feel you don't have. I'm sure if you meet her and spend time with her you will feel more relieved. Speak to your boyfriend, tell him you guys are in a relationship and you want to start going over his place and if he wants to come over your place as well that's fine. Maybe you guys can arrange and go out on a double date, with his brother and his girlfriend. Your probably just blowing things out of proportion and drawing conclusions that are far off from reality baby girl! Hope this helps you out!! Good luck =)
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