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writes:Hey, I hope you can help me out with my situation. During last summer, I 'thought' I was pregnant with my boyfriend's (now ex's) baby. My periods became abnormally light and irregular, I always felt bloated, felt faint, was urinating more often, had constant headaches plus many more symptoms! This went on for months - I was 110% convinced I was carrying a child, despite having had a negative pregnancy test!Initially, I was petrified of telling my parents and I knew me and my boyfriend were not going to last together for much longer. But within time, I got used to the idea, and I started to feel really excited about having a child of my own! I started thinking of baby names, re-planning my future, etc. I was obsessed, which I think contributed towards the symptoms I were getting - my body seemed to react to the idea of me being pregnant, even though I wasnt! Anyway, I think it was about October last year when I had a blood test which confirmed that I was NOT pregnant. I was heartbroken! although, I managed to hide my devastation very well infront of friends and family - I hadnt told many people to begin with (thankfully) so that saved some embarrassment.I managed to pull myself together after a few weeks and told myself that it wasn't good timing anyway, with college, exams etc. But ever since, I have been incredibly broody! I'm obsessed with tv programs such as 'One born every minute' and 'Underage and pregnant', I stalk my friends facebook profile because she's pregnant and I like to keep a check on the progress, I also read lots of articles etc. I'm just so desperate to have a child! I want to stop feeling this way, it's driving me mad.
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reader, justtcuriouss  +, writes (8 June 2010):
 I'm 18 and I want a child too, so I know what you mean.I love watching Secret Life of the American Teenager, and Teen Mom, and 16 and Pregnant...A lot of my friends are expecting or have had kids...I mean, it's all around us, and natural for us to seek that. I'm sorry that you and your boy friend didn't work out but that's only because someone better is coming along and maybe he'll be the one to start a family with.As far as the craving of motherhood goes, I am going just as crazy as you are and I work at a day care and at a nursery...So I know what it's like to chase kids around with boogers, and putting buttrash cream and changing massive poopey diapers, and cleaning up spit up and throw up, and I know what its like to balance two jobs, all of those kids and school/ school work and trying to fir in time with my working boyfriend, and trying to manage sleep, and our little puppy...it can be very very hard, and I don't even actually have a kid to come home too...but some of us are old souls, and are built at an earlier age to be a mommy.I know that I am young, but you know your situation more than anyone...I know I have many things I want to get done before having one, but I do see it happening in the next couple of years, because I know what to expect, and I am so ready to start a family.It's even harder when all of my cousins have lots of kids and they are my age...so I hope you think it all through, but just make sure you are prepared.
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 May 2010): I feel the same way too, but I was actually pregnant and had an abortion I dnt know what I was thinking I regret it soo much that now I want a baby soo bad. I guess we goatta wait when the time is best and god wants so send us a child. Just enjoy life now
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reader, Auntie E +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Consider this - having a child is a 18 year chunk out of your life. Is this what you want? Consider this - you thought you were pregnant with your now-ex's baby - you would be raising that baby by yourself with no dad (getting a girl pregnant does not automatically turn a guy into a dad - doesn't work that way). Consider this - if you had a baby - what about college? Can't get anywhere these days without a secondary education. Consider this - it's much harder for a single mom to date than an unfettered one. You should be having fun at your age with guys your age. Stop with the TV programs, stop with the articles, and STOP stalking your unfortunate friend on FB - but DO check her out once that baby is about 2 - she will have much less enthusiasm - trust me.
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reader, Moo's Mum  +, writes (27 May 2010):
 Having children is great but I wouldn't recommend it if you have no steady partner. It's bloody hard work. It's demanding and thankless and dirty (mud, poo, wee, sick etc) and it's so rentless and TIRING!!! And man all that stuff is hard to deal with if you don't have someone there to share the load with you.
How about volunteering to help a family with lots of kids and a new baby for a couple of months or volunteering at a kindy or childcare place. You will understand what I mean if you see first hand how much work kids are.
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