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writes:At the moment, I feel like my life is pretty empty. I'm a 20 year old student and 7 months ago I split up with my girlfriend of a year and a half, I did love her very much, however, she was so controlling and demanding, it just forced my self confidence so low I was on the verge of depression. When we went on our 1st holiday together, I noticed she gave me practically no room to breathe and if we were out enjoying ourselves, the next morning if I had a hangover, she'd get mad and not talk to me for the day, just because she wanted to do something every day for 2 weeks. It would be any half an excuse and she would have a go at me.Now I'm back at university, I've ended up living in the same flat as her, and as time goes on, I really miss her, I want her back more than anything, but I feel there are too many complications. I'm feeling more and more depressed as I see her all the time, and it reminds me of the good times we had together. Her friends tell me that she still likes me, but I'm not too sure what to do. I have considered going to see a psychiatrist about it to see if it would be easier to let her go and just get on with my life. What do you think I should do?
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reader, ArmyMedic +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Why the hell did you get a flat with her? Look at the beginning of your post you were thoroughly miserable in that relationship.
You need to find somewhere else to live, and actually start living! Join some University societies and meet new and interesting people!
You're young and now single, enjoy life as a single student, trust me it's fun!
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reader, AskEve +, writes (8 March 2009):
 Never allow a woman to control you. Get some backbone and be yourself! Be assertive, confident and in control. Relationships are all about compromise. You should both be free to be yourselves in a relationship, things should flow smoothly and when problems arise then you both talk them over calmly and come to a decision. When you're with a partner they should make you feel good about yourself, you should feel happy, strong, confident about yourself and her, they shouldn't make you feel low, hopeless and worthless. That is why we have relationships, to SEE if we're compatible. It may be that she is just too controlling and will never change if things don't go her way. If that's the case, would you really want to be with someone like this? In the meantime you enjoy yourself and do what YOU want to do. Don't do things for her at the drop of a hat and let her see that you are very much your own person now. Get out, have fun with your other mates and be a little bit mysterious, not letting her know everything you're up to. Be assertive and make her WANT you more! Above all do NOT let her control you!~Eve~
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