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*ngel2311
writes: Just to start off I have a deep love for my ex and now we're planning to get back together but there's a catch. You see he doesn't have much trust towards women due to what many have done him wroung including myself. So he's been talkin to someone else and wants a 3way relationship with me the other girl and himself 'cuz he feels like it would be less likey for any of us to stray off and cheat and fiancally would be safe for all parties. Basically move to Va together and form a family. I already have a 3 month old which he loves but isn't his and helped me get over and thro a hard relationship with the father of my son. Now I'm in a better place and state of mind due to him helpin me out. The fact is I'm deeply in love with him and since I'm bisexural it doesn't really bother me but I'm wondering if this would work. We've thought this out positively and negatively but I do want him for myself. He'll soon be the godfather for my son and I'm making moves to leave new york. Basically how can I have him to myself cauze he's admitted to me that we're more compatable 'cuz I do understnad him and she's kinda young minded still about stuff. If u must kno yea her and I like each other but she's still a baby and not really a big deal to me. So far everything has been all talk no action yet and I wanna take him b4 it doesI have to describe every lil thing seein how ya responded. Ill just list them down if ya'll don't mind. 1. As far as money fiancally I'm set I have a great job that I can use to tranfer myself to VA without havin to worry about losing my job. 2. If your wondering what happened to the father of my son. well he need to grow up as a person and is still stunk on chillin with his friends and sellin weed which I can't have around my son. His abuse toward me and his own family has gotten so bad that he's not allow to be around me or his son. 3. This 3way relationship was my doing and it first start off as a joke. but do to me being bisexual and also being atracted to the other girl (who by the way is the sweetiest person I've met) I figured why not have the best of both worlds. But I'm also re thinking all of this as well. 4. The relationship between me and my ex. Is a lot strounger then his relationship towards the other girl so I'm not to worried about her. He has a hard time showin his feelings due to many ppl breakin his trust and hurtin him. He's not a typical dude who goes out to clubs and tries to get girls to sleep with. No , he hates sluts and ppl who are not real with themselves and be followers, liars and mulipulators* . 5. As far as my son when he grows-up he'll know them as aunt and god father and we'll all have seperate rooms so there's no confuzion. Affection will be left for the in doors 'cuz we're not doin this to show off the relationship to anyone. Just to sum this off and update it hasn't even happened yet and I'm starting to feel like it wouldn't. He's starting to open his heart to me with show a lot of trust between us and have been talkin about how thing are different now. ( its sooo super hard to hear I love you from this dude) last night he told me that he truly loves me and can't do without me. He loves my son to the fullest and agrees to raise him with me. But as a dad or just a godfather we haven't gotten to that yet. Please gimme some feedback and advice and thanx for those who told me they're true feelings about this situation. Xoxo
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 July 2008): Could it work? Hey, just look toward the many successful examples of threesomes out there who have stood the test of time as stable, functioning families. Er, wait a minute...
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reader, Secret Teller +, writes (12 July 2008):
 3 way relationships never work, if you have a deep love for this man like you say you do, you will explain to him that you should be the only girl. but if he don't agree he dosen't have that deep love like you say you do for him.
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reader, Uncle Sneaker  +, writes (12 July 2008):
 Threeway relationships rarely work, although a very few people do manage them successfully.
The odds of it working are really against it - and being bisexual or all having separate rooms doesn't necessarily help. Unless you have a real love for the third partner and can love her and him equally (and have those feelings returned), then sooner or later it's likely to end in heartbreak for at least one of you.
I reckon you need to think long and hard about this.
Good luck. I hope you work it out.
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