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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend and I have been dating for quite some time now. We have always been happy together but lately things seem to have fizzled out. I am confused and unhappy about this.At the beginning, we were clingy, huggy and always affectionate with each other, mainly from me to him. Recently, I have declined kisses on the lips and refused to play with him when he asks. He asks me why and I cannot give him a definitive reason. It worries me that this will cause anger and upset which may jeopardize our relationship but I don't know why I feel this way. He is still very attracted to me in ways outside the bedroom and with the kissing, so I just want to work out what's wrong and get things back to the way things used to be. Please help.
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reader, aunt honesty  +, writes (15 January 2012):
 There is obviously a mental block in your head and you need to get to the bottom of what it is. I can see that this relationship means a lot to you and this has you worried. But once a relationship settles down more so than often so does the affection. It is what is called the honey moon period being over. However your boyfriend is going to feel neglected so you need to show him you care in other ways and reassure him that you still care about him. There is no point in forcing yourself to be affectionate. Maybe you are feeling depressed or low about yourself. I am sure there must be some reason why you don't want to feel the closeness only you can get to the bottom of it.
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