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female
age
36-40,
anonymous
writes:[Mod note: OPs original title: "Should I stay or should I go?" has been used already.]I'm not sure whether or not I want to stay with my boyfriend or not.He's 37 and I'm 26 and we've been together for 2 years. About a year ago I began doubting our relationship off and on. It hasn't stopped.One week I can be completely in love with him and seriously contemplate spending my life with him. The next I feel trapped and feel the need to be single.We do have opposing opinions on certain issues but I'm not sure how the importance of them will affect us down the road. These include views on retirement, I'm not sure I want to, the books I read, and where we live. There are even moments where I feel he's too old for me and perhaps we are on different "pages" in life. I just don't or can't worry about the same things he does all the time.When I way the pros and cons of the relationship, as well as my feelings, I come up even. How do I tip the balance so I know whether to stay or to break it off?
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reader, inandout +, writes (2 September 2010):
 You need a clear break away. With your age there are still points in your life that you need to explore, and being commit at this point in your life isn't cutting it.
You just need to be a woman about it and tell him the truth, it sounds like you too are in love its just that he has flew already and you on the other hand have not.Start taking more time out for yourself, make plans with your friends and explore yourself you may find this as the answer.
On the other hand
You may also be in need of "other" exploration. If he loves you he will be willing to let you fly and move through through time or call you names and say the most hurtful thing he can never take back.
But here is a side note
When people become lovers it should be aware that people are full aware of what the other person is up too be it small or large. You should begin to think that what you are doing isn't fair to your partner and explain it out with him
Down that line it always sucks to hear
1) I had a feeling this was....
2) No i know what you are about to say
3) Listen you been changing lately and I wanna know why
4) Finally you say something
Those are signs of how much a person neglects the situation when the partner is somewhere in your thinking pattern. Tell them cause either way they WILL find out...
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