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writes:Hey everyone,My ex bf dumped me about a month ago...About 3 weeks after the break-up he randomly IM's me...after 3 weeks of me and him staring at each other online and not saying a word. We talked for about 2 hours....and he's like I'll talk to you soon. He then ignores me online the rest of that week ....Then after that week he IM's me again..small talking etc...and Now is ignoring me again....He doesn't mention anything about the break up or getting back together..........Just asking to see how everything is and how i'm doing.......What do I take of this?I told him I didn't want to be friends! Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): thanks for the responses and input! I guess I was being nice to him because I wanted to let him know that indeed I wasn't DYING without him, that I was doing just fine...and if he needs female attention so bad he never should have left in the first place....I was hoping maybe he was opening conversations to say he was sorry and that he made a mistake, obviously not though...oh well :)
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 February 2008): In this case it just sounds like he is probably lonely and wants to see if you have moved on or are still dwelling on him. Believe me that if he had someone else he wouldn't be contacting you. He wants to know if you are still dwelling on him not because he wants to get back with you but only because he is looking for a little ego boost cause apparently nobody else is giving it to him.
So don't give him what he wants. If you tell him you don't want to be friends with him he is going to know that it is because you are still hurt and you still care. So act like you don't care. Think about how you act when you literally don't care about somebody and then act like that. Like when someone you don't care about IM's you, you either ignore the message or are too busy to respond or you are really short with them. When you don't care about someone, you don't care who they are dating or if they contact you or what you say to them. You just don't care. So just act like you don't care with him cause I promise you that he doesn't want you back and is playing games with you for his own benefit so don't fall for it and be strong.
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reader, birdynumnums  +, writes (1 February 2008):
 If you have told him that you don't want to be friends, you send a mixed message by talking with him for 2 hours. It's obvious that it's no skin off of his nose because he ignored you after that and it didn't bother him, it only bothered you. if you don't want him to feel like he can jump in and out of your life whenever he feels like calling, block his number and stop taking his calls. You can only be treated the way that you allow yourself to be treated. I don't think that it's a good idea to try to be friends after a split, I really think it's better to pull off the band-aid quickly and throw it away in order to heal.
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