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female
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30-35,
anonymous
writes:My boyfriend wants me to have sex with him but i'm not sure i'm ready yet, we've been together for 3 months now, what should i do? Reply to this Question
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reader, bliss-xo  +, writes (28 October 2007):
 Sex is a big step, not only in a relationship but in your life. Its certainly not something that you just want to rush into, if your not ready it can be a horrible experience. You also want to make sure its with someone that you trust, sex for the first time, for females can be painful and your going to want to know that if it is too much that you can trust them to stop. You want to be able to trust them to not just use you.
If you have to ask if your ready or not or your not sure if you are, then no, your certainly not ready. Sex complicates things in relationships and you have plenty of time for it in the future. It also has great consquiences. So please, put great thought into it before you do it. Alot of young women don't get the chance to give someone that but rather get it taken from them, so the more ready you are the better.
I wish you luck.
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female
reader, becky13  +, writes (21 October 2007):
just do it anyway your going to do it sometime soon
i was younger my first time and now i cant live without it
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reader, Aredas  +, writes (19 October 2007):
 as has been said previously, it's illegal to have sex at your age, in virtually any country. I think you should tell him that you intend to wait till age 16/18 whichever is legal in your country. As has also been said, if he is a good bf he will understand.
Aredas
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): if your not ready tell him that . dont do it if you feel your not ready because you will regret it afterwards
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): listen babe, if you havev any doubts at all about it then talk to him. if he is a good bf he will understand, and wait until you are ready.
at your age no one could expect you to have come to terms with sex.
just be honest.
good luck!
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reader, Tommy7 +, writes (19 October 2007):
Tell him you plan to wait unti you are 18 to start having sex with the guy who loves you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 October 2007): 'If theres any doubt - Keep it out!' thats my motto.
You are far too young to be having sex - and it is illegal. Its good that you have the sense to question your actions not just go ahead with them. Hopefully your maturity will make you decide the right thing - if theres any pressure from him, then he's only after you for one thing. Dont be used. If you choose to go ahead - USE A CONDOM
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reader, Msblessed +, writes (19 October 2007):
 Sweetie if your not ready then you really shouldn't have sex with him don't worry your young you have a lot of time
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reader, dapone 1 +, writes (18 October 2007):
 dear anon
Dealing with sex is hard enough at my age,never mind yours, if your boy friend only wants you for sex then he aint worth knowing,if you believe your not ready for sex then do not do it,see how simple life can be, if he tries to force you and you dont want to do it, then that is RAPE, so when he ask you say NO, if he continues call the police, end of story, your mind and body are your own and no one should violate either, you have a choice and free will use them when you want to, dont let any one use or abuse your mind or body, three month is not long enough to know any one if he cant wait for you then he is not worth knowing.
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reader, kenny +, writes (18 October 2007):
 At this young age three months is not very long atal. If you feel you are not ready yet then don't do it. If your boyfriend is a good guy he will respect that you are not ready and wait for you. You wait for as long as you want, don't feel pressured to do it, there is plenty of time.
Take care x
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reader, flower girl +, writes (18 October 2007):
 Three months is not very long especially at such a young age, and if you are not sure you are definatly not ready, you know when it's right for you and when that time comes you will not have to ask for advice on it, enjoy being young and dont worry too much about things like this.
Take care.xx.
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