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writes: How can you tell the difference between love and lust?Ive got really strong feelings for a friend but i dont want to tell him untill i know for sure its not just lust.I think about him 24/7, i cant sleep at night if i know he's gone on a date with another girl, and everyday when im getting dressed, i always choose outfits which i think he will like. When we're together, i could stare at him for hours and he makes me feel so good about myself. He's the nicest, funniest guy i know.Please can someone help me know whats love and whats lust because these feelings are doing my head in and i cant concentrate at work untill i know whether its just a silly crush or not
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 November 2006): hmmm
if u feel as if your a better person when your with him, doing lots of activities and etc. then it should be love,
but if u only like his hair, his lips, his eyes his voice then it aint going no where.
well hopefully he has love in return for u girl!
but yes contineu talkin and write back whats happeend lately
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reader, bonym  +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Lust primarily is about physical, sexual desire for a person based on their outward appearance usually whereas love goes far beyond pure physical desire. Lust goes in hand with passion, I suppose, but passion is part of love too, because when you love your partner, you have a desire to be with them intimately. It sounds to me that you have fallen for him, and perhpas its moved beyond the boundaries of mere lust. I know how you feel girl cos I have been there, but my dear,if you love him, tell him. Goodluck xXx
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): It sounds like you are smitten.
Have you talked to this guy about your feelings? I think if you are that close of friends then a good talk would be in order.
It isn't a silly crush; it's how you feel so don't belittle it or discount it.
I agree that if it was lust, you would be fantasizing about him sexually and not "romantically". You are choosing outfits so you can attract his eye.
You stare at him and are amazed by him. I know that feeling; I still can be caught looking at my bf with amazement at who he is and how beautiful he is. I love him.
Take the chance and ask him for dinner and tell him.
Good luck.
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reader, Helen1986 +, writes (24 August 2006):
 I think that you are experiencing love. Lust is usually when you meet someone new, so it is exciting. But this bloke is your friend and your feelings have gradually developed. I think you should speak to him and find out if he feels the same. But think about it first because if it doesn't work out you could end up losing your friendship with him. Good luck
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reader, anonymous, writes (24 August 2006): It sounds like you are smitten.
Have you talked to this guy about your feelings? I think if you are that close of friends then a good talk would be in order.
It isn't a silly crush; it's how you feel so don't belittle it or discount it.
I agree that if it was lust, you would be fantasizing about him sexually and not "romantically". You are choosing outfits so you can attract his eye.
You stare at him and are amazed by him. I know that feeling; I still can be caught looking at my bf with amazement at who he is and how beautiful he is. I love him.
Take the chance and ask him for dinner and tell him.
Good luck.
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reader, xxxsoulsistaxxx +, writes (24 August 2006):
 Well lust is where you think about the person in a sexual way only, i.e. all your thoughts revolve around sex with them. I think love is when you could spend the rest of your life together and not mind if you never had sex again because just being with them is all the matters. You need to think about what these thoughts you're having are: are they sexual or just about him in general?
I would think the thought are about more than just sex so you have to take your time and find out whether this is just a crush or whether it will last. Get to know him a little better, why not ask him on a date? Don't be the one at home wondering what he's doing with other girls, get in there and see if he feels the same way.
It sounds like you're really mad about this guy and the only way to move past this is to find out whether it's going to work out with you two or not, then you can move on. Get talking to him, let him know how you feel and just have fun.
Good luck
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