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writes: HI Cupid,BIG EMERGENCY QUESTION...I used to date this guy about 7 months ago i cheated oh him, yet I really didnt mean to cause i'm not that type of person that was the first time. I kept it from him for like 2 months and then he just dumped me and told and triggered my anger so i ended up blurting out that I cheated on him which really got him mad he said he hates me and never wants to see me again. Months later I already had one relationship, and now I'm seeing this perfect guy except he has some major flaws what im constantly reminding him about which can easily be changes (exp... shaving, dressing normally) but its almost like he ignores what i say. Yet everything else is your wish is my command.I also feel like crap because his imcome is a lot higher then mine and he's already got his career and everything we have a 6 year difference. All the sudden my ex want's me back, so i met up with him and i actually had a good time its like my insides were sreaming from joy. He's the one guy that I just couldn't get over.On the other hand the guy that I'm dating right is such a kind hearted person and i feel like I don't deserve him.As well as we're in different places of our lives right now.And my ex and I are on the same level i spent like 5 hours on the phone with him and he kept asking me what I want to do and I just didnt have an answer.My mom doesnt want me to get with my ex and neither do my friends...WHAT DO I DO?
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (7 April 2006):
 Personally I think an ex is just that. You cheated on him for one reason or another whether that was just a one off, if he was so perfect why did you cheat on him in the first place.
The fact that he said that he never wants to see you again and now when you seem to have moved on he is interested again seems to me like he wants what he can't have. Men like the chase and at the moment your a challenge. Would that all change if you dump the nice guy your with now.
Don't think that just because a guy dresses differently or doesn't shave is a major flaw, talk to him more. Just because there is an age difference and he has started to make something of his career, you can ride on the wave with him.
If your mum and friends think your ex is no good for you, there must be something in that as people don't often have strong opinions for no reason. Ask them why they don't like him and find out a bit more about their feelings towards him.
If you do decide to dump your current b/f for your ex make sure you are doing it for the right reasons and not just a bit of lust. That soon disappears and if your b/f is a decent guy I don't think there will be any going back and also if he is as nice as you say he is he will get hurt without a doubt.
If you are totally confused perhaps you need to be on your own for a while as you are obviously still not over the fact that you cheated and perhaps you need to address that first as this could happen all over again especially with the ex sniffing around, don't be swayed. Take your time and don't let your ex pressurise you right now.
You are obviously an attractive woman and the fact that 2 men want to be with you is a huge compliment. Just make sure you know your own mind first and make sure your heart and head are on the same page eh!!
Good luck.
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 April 2006): Well, if you couldn't get over you ex, that has to be a sign. But you have to consider your current boyfriends feelings, like what would he do if you were to break up with him...But I think you should take your ex boyfriend back, and give him another chance.
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