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writes:Theres this girl i met at a friends barbeque a couple of weeks ago. Since then shes texted me, given me her number, asked me how my day was, called me at night and talked about her life, complimented me over the phone, laughed alot and listened to me and all that. I think shes a very nice girl, very sweet and caring, based on that one time ive seen her in person and so far the phone conversations have been pretty comfortable. Im not sure if I like her or not and i dunno whether thats due to the fact that i havent gotten to know her or if its something else. Im willing to give it a try but because she likes me shes been acting abit too needy and desperate which i kinda dont like. However, I feel like whenever im not talking to her im thinking about what it would be like to be with her, and even with that i dont noe whether its because i like her or whether its because i like to picture myself in a relationship with her. Im finding it quite confusing.Is it bad that i seem to think about being with her when im not actually talking or texting her?
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 March 2011): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionSee thats the thing. . .she too has been the one to initiate the first date. She made the suggestion as well to meet up but because i felt like i wasnt doing any chasing i decided to arrange the date in detail. Im meeting her tonight to go see a concert with some friends so i'll see how it goes. The reason im confused is because recently (within the past two mths) ive realised ive been lacking a love life and have been keeping my eyes peeled for potential dates and what i like in women. All of a sudden i feel the role reversal and its kinda strange and fun at the same time, so im worried that i could just be wanting to go out with her because shes shown interest in me. Is this a possibility?
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reader, Thornbirds  +, writes (30 March 2011):
 You feel flattered by the attention you get from her. As a man, you were robbed of the thrill of chasing a woman, and instead,she's the one who initiated it to you. There's no doubt she likes you a lot, and wants to pursue you based on her actuations. However,you don't settle for anything less than what you really want in the first place, right? It is just natural for you to feel comfortable when someone deliberately makes you feel good and important just to be liked in return. You just don't buy something simply because it is cheap. You buy something because you want, or need it. Sometimes, it's nice to eat anything that is right in front of us, but it's the satisfaction and the fulfillment that matters..Finally, you ask if it is bad? Do you have the appetite to eat? If it'll upset your stomach, don't take a bite.
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