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*weetie06_02
writes:I have been with my bf off and on for a year now. One of the reasons we broke up before is he drove me nuts asking me everyday if i was pregnant. I am on the pill and he pulls out, usually. Well, last weekend he didn't pull out but the next day I started my period. I'm not worried but everytime I see him he touchs my stomach and says baby?! I have a 2 yr old from my last relationship and I don't want another child right now. He says he is just afraid and that's why he does it but it really bothers me. I am a big girl anyway so I tell him I'm just fat no worries. I tried to explain how it makes me feel crappy when he does that. How do I get him to stop worrying? Or does he secretly want a child?
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reader, Emilysanswers  +, writes (15 February 2009):
Well then every time he says it, either clip him round the ear or refuse to have sex for a week. Or grab a slightly chubby part of him and ask if that's a baby - do something to piss him off and he's get the message about how annoying it is.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, sweetie06_02 +, writes (15 February 2009):
sweetie06_02 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI don't completely trust the pill. That is why i make him pull out. I have several relatives that have still gotten pregnant using it and I don't wanna chance it right now. Even though, it took me 3 years to get pregnant last time. I tried to get him to take a home fertility test since he seems so concerned whether or not he can have children but it was broken. He is a luekmia survivor so he is unsure whether or not he can have children.
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reader, sweetie06_02 +, writes (14 February 2009):
sweetie06_02 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionHe says he does want kids in the future but not anytime soon. He is a very big boy and so I try askin him all the time when he is due. It upsets him and yet he doesn't understand why i get upset. As for using condoms...we don't mainly cause of me I don't like them. Sometimes they burn me.
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reader, Emilysanswers +, writes (14 February 2009):
Buy a box of condoms and make him wear them every time... or tell him to go and get a vasectomy.
Or tell him the best way to avoid having children is not to have sex so refuse to have sex for a few weeks until he gets the message.
You aren't quite clear if he is scared of them or wants one. If he's demanding that you have one then just tell him point blank that it is NOT going to happen.
At the end of it all, he is only carrying on doing this because although you split up with him, you GOT BACK TOGETHER with him and then let him get away with carrying on going on about it.
If you are going to split up with someone over something you have to actually STAY split up when they do it again.
Make him wear condoms, stay on the pill, and refuse to have sex if he mentions it.
Good Luck!! xx
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reader, wonderingcat +, writes (14 February 2009):
 Ask him nicely, whether he wants one or is afraid of one. If he doesn't want one, then suggest to him that he can increase the chances of non-pregnancy by wearing a condom (which, btw, would also be better for you w/ regards to STDs). I think he already knows that coitus interruptus is not a "safe" birth control method Then, after that, everyday for 2 weeks, you touch his tummy and say "baby?" LOLCat
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