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writes:How do you cope in a relationship when you are really wanting something but your partner isn't ready?LIke you are at a stage of your life/relationship ready to move on but your partner isn't quite ready and you need to wait?I think i've always been in control of my life, when things happen are usually when i decide i want them to happen. I buy a house when I am ready, i move towns when I am ready, I change jobs when I am ready.Now i love my guy to death but it feels like a lot of the time i'm waiting on him to make that final decision. Like i was ready to move in with him but waited patiently until he was ready 6 months later.Maybe ive been spoilt, but i think its more just very independent. Now in a relationship i need to wait on him to be ready and its frustrating!!I dont think its a need to get out of it and find someone else because i do love him. I just dont know how to cope when its him at the end of the day who seems to make the decision because if i do, he flat out isn't ready. Ideas?!!!
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 December 2011): Ask him what the reason , why his not ready. Be supportive to him. So u can go to the next level of relationship you want.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (9 December 2011):
 I learned a long time ago that the person who cares the least is the one in charge. I am always the one making the decisions in my life and in my relationships. Until now. I have learned that I have to compromise and work with my current partner to make sure both of us are ready and happy. It's a learning curve for me.
IF someone is NOT ready we cannot force them. And if leaving them is not an option and doing your own thing is not an option then all you can do is wait.
Have you talked to him about what you want/need and your timeframes?
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