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writes:My boyfriend and I have been in a serious relationship off an on for the most part of 4 years. We are 22 and 23. He was in a bad car accident which has left him with am arm the dose not completely straighten. I was not with him during the accident but we got together shortly after he was released from rehab. I have been there with and for him through surgeries and hospitalizations. I truly love him but he's in a place were he is unhappy with himself and starts arguments with me over small things, and often tells me that he disentangle understand why I love him, and that he no that I'm not happy with him. Recently he would start arguments with me and break up with me everyday. When I complained about it enough times he realized it and it stopped. I'm confused on what I should do from this point. I've been here I love him but I'm not happy with the constant break ups and me not knowing how to help him through his post dramatic stress. What do I do, I wish to continue this relationship! Reply to this Question
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reader, AuntyMaur  +, writes (5 February 2011):
 I think he is wanting to end the relationhip but he does not want to hurt you. When he sees you so upset he feels guilty because of everything you have done for him through his rehabilitation, but a relationship based on guilt is not a good reason to stay in a relationhip.
I know its diffcult to let go of some one you love and while he may love you he is not in love with you anymore. Next time he breaks up with you walk away and give him the space he is wanting. Sometimes people have to work things out on thier own or through a councillor. The old saying:
If you love seomthing set it free...if it comes back it is yours it if doesnt it never was......
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