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writes:My husband had a one night stand way before i met him and she claimed she has his child. he told me about it and i insisted he go for a dna tests because i believe there is a chance its his child and he should take care of him. He is planning to go next week for the tests. the problem is if its his he said he will come stay with us and thats my problem i dont want that. I dont have a child of my own we are trying actually. I am not happy about taking care of the kid if he happens to be his. am i being selfish?
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reader, anonymous, writes (3 July 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionwell thank you for your responces i really needed someone to talk to about it,i guess i will have to wait and see how i will feel after the results now its been hard to evan imagine i love him maybe somehow my feelings will change.
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 July 2010): HiI understand your feelings however from the opposite angle my sister had a one n stand too , same situation as yours. Dna test he was the father but his new girlfreind wanted her own children and not this unexpected one. I won't waffle straight to the result.My special neice prom night 16 years later,last week her father so proud, her mum, and her special second mum oh! also her two kid brothers who came along later. It can work out better than you imagine . understand that seperating your perfectly natural(response feelings) can be changed to love, if you see the child as innocent and of course you want your own. it's your choicebut i can tell you my neice completly loves ALL of her FAMILY and i respect the open heart of her step mom for giving more love when at first she felt like you must feel..but she chose love because she did not want to hurt her partner and an innocent child. the world can be a cold place full of bad feeling YOU like THEM can give love in place of resentment. I wish you luck you can only GAIN but your CHOICE. best of luck and i hope your hurt heals.
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