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writes:Dear cupid,I am needing your advice on this please, My ex dumped me and Things ended very friendly between us, he just didn’t want a relationship and I do – I’m heartbroken, all I can do is work and sleep. Anyway he contacts and we chat/text all day, pretty much about our relationship. How he doesn’t want one and I do. I start to think to myself, why you have contacted me to tell me this ? anyway we chat and the day ends.The Next day we chat again but we are both a little irritable, and I stupidly tell him that I want him and no one else ! …. And that is how things have been left between us. Its been 2 weeks, I haven’t contact him and he hasn’t spoken to me. I feel Gutted ! and Stupid !I ask cupid, How would you feel if someone told you this ? I don’t feel that contacting him would be a good idea, I feel I should probably give him space. But do you think there is any chance I might hear from him again and salvage anything ? Thank you in advance peeps
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reader, sugarplum786  +, writes (20 August 2014):
 It is over and you cannot be friends with some one you love as you will not move on. You will hide behind the friendship name and always be wishful that he takes you back. Accept its over, this is the only way you will start to heal. Yes it hurts like hell, you cry yourself to sleep and you don't feel like eating but you will survive and remember you are not the first person to be going through this and yes it will take time but I promise with time you will feel better.
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reader, So_Very_Confused  +, writes (20 August 2014):
 It's over.
He is putting out feelers for an FWB... it's easy with an ex. they know you will accept any little bone they throw you just to be near them.
GO NO contact totally. and hold NO hope of it ever being what you want.
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reader, CindyCares  +, writes (20 August 2014):
 I'd feel that you are being stubborn and not really listening. Why, I have just told you at length how and why I do not want a relationship ( I agree with Honeypie, I think he was putting out feelers for an FWB ) ... and you tell me you want only me, nobody but me ? ... Then we are speaking two different languages, I just TOLD you I can't be yours.
I do not know if you can salvage anything, in the sense of " staying friends " , but even if you could, why would you ? You do not want him as a friend , ( or as an FWB ), you have romantic feelings for him ! This would be a very unbalanced , fake friendship based on you sticking around and stifling your feelings, waiting for him to throw you some crumbs of affection . Why would you torture yourself like that ?
Go no contact and keep no contact. It seem impossible right now, but inevitably you will move on at some point
( and the less you hear from him, the sooner you'll reach that point ).
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 August 2014): Were just hearing one side of the story. There must be something that happened that made your ex decide to just stay friends with you.
You know better than we. But its up to u. You may give him a silent treatment. No contact rule. Until one year had pass, you move on and your ex move on, probably get engage to someone.
So whats the point of asking things? If you want someone talk and get in touch. Because the next time you try to get back with them..you might get invited for their wedding.
I just think you have to quit messing your head. If your ex said i dont want to get back with you then just accept it but dont give up just yet.
Tell whats on your mind and heart. If he still say no then time to move on and find someone who will love you .
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reader, Honeypie +, writes (20 August 2014):
 I think If he really doesn't WANT a relationship he "might" try and get you to accept a FWB (which from what I can gleen of your post, is NOT what you want).
My advice, give yourself some time to "get over" him and move on.
Go out with friends, spend time with family. Rediscover some old passions/hobbies something to keep your mind off the ex a bit. FIND yourself all over.
DO not put your life on hold in HOPES that he "might" reconsider. Don't do that to yourself.
But last of all, DO NOT try and date anyone else right now, or sleep with someone thinking it will make the hurt go away, it won't.
You two weren't meant to be, it happens, as much as that hurt.
It will get better.
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