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writes:I am a 14 year old boy and I am "turned on by gay things". I dont want to be gay I have had a girl we have been going out for over a month and she wants to have sex so do I but im scared i want be preparied for. Reply to this Question
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reader, Starry Meadow +, writes (12 January 2008):
I wouldn't worry too much, just keep having your relationship with your girlfriend and when you feel in the mood watch/read gay stuff. Just keep living and don't worry. And to be sure to yourself, when you're older, go out with a guy and see for sure if you're gay. (Don't if you really feel you're not.)P.S.If you think you're weird, get this.I'm a lesbian who watches gay porn. And I love it!
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reader, anonymous, writes (8 January 2008): Look mate, I am 14, and in a smiliar position. I could LOVE girls, but not men, and I would enjoy sex more with men, than women. But my hormones are like crazy! Who knows, by 20 I could be homophobic. Gay porn turns me on, women don't. I wouldn't worry yet, you're too young.
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reader, lboy  +, writes (8 January 2008):
 dear reader,
i think that ll of this might just be because your worrying too much about having sex (not that you shud be havin it at 14) but anyway i think that u are just tryin to find a reason subconsciously to not do this and this is the solution your mind found, now unfortunately for you this does mean that there is the slight chance that you may be bi i definately do not think that you are full on gay, just try and calm yourself and if your not ready to have sex then just tell your gf your not ready yet this should clear up the problem an if not then im afraid u may have to accept the fact that u are most likely bisexual and then maybe experiment. well thats all i can say sorry.
good luck
lboy
xxx
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reader, Boonridge McPhalify +, writes (7 January 2008):
 funny how so many females know what it feels like to be a gay 14 year old male- i hope your all speaking from experience!
i didn't want to be gay but i was and am, and to cap it off i lost my v plates at 12 and guess what "I'm alright jack!" (cheesy film quote). if you want to have sex with your girl go for it, just use condoms and if you find you like it hey presto. if something was missing (and i dont mean a boner-i've had loads when just kissing girls but the feeling of excitement and attraction in my guts was not there-it was like wanking, pure biological reaction) you might be gay.
either way enjoy but dont go making babies!
if you need any further advice click on my name thing and ask me direct, or not, the choice is yours my friend
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reader, xxSABBYxx  +, writes (2 January 2008):
first every other answer you have is half correct and the other half is absolutly crape!!
as a gay man who is 23 now i can tell you, if your being turned on by gay men and gay things then you are quite possibly gay!
when your younger you think about different things but the other people who have answered your question havnt noticed that you wrote, you get turned on by gay things!
i know a lot of men in there 30's and 40's who like you didnt follow there heart and now have ruined marriages!
just really think about it, dont let people say to you "stick with females" thats crape, follow you heart.
x
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reader, x-Happy-Feet-x +, writes (1 January 2008):
 yes i agree with others dont have sex if your not prepaired and it is a bad idea but if you are make sure your using protection and that well as for the gay part dont worry its just hormones if you dont want to be gay then simply dont go through that root if you dont go and be gay with someone then you wont end up being it so if you dont want to be gay easy thing dont have sex with a male lol xx
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reader, Fairy_Lu +, writes (1 January 2008):
 Your explorng your sexuality and your hormones are going bonkers its most likely a faze so nothing to worry about and as for having sex with your girlfriend i think your a bit young so i would wait!
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reader, chrissy32789 +, writes (1 January 2008):
 hey sweetie you are young still so your hormones are racing like crazy. Not alot of boys or girls admit that they think about the same sex but alot of teenagers do its not just you and if you dont want to be gay then dont push yourself towards it and you will be fine just stay with females. And if you and your girlfriend has sex you will be fine you wont think about guys during it but use a condom and be safe!
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reader, starfairy +, writes (1 January 2008):
 It's just your raging hormones. If you don't want to pursue a gay relationship, you're not gay. It's quite common when you're a teenager.
My boyfriend and I watch porn together, but I only like the lesbian porn. I'm totally straight though.
Don't worry about it :o)
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