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*lmadd
writes:Hi CupidMe and my bf are dating for the past 4 months and we were close friends for nearly an year. Few weeks before he dumped me out of blue, when i asked him for the reason he said he moved on and never attended any of the calls or replied for any of the texts. After a week he called me and said he was sorry and he was on stress cause of some personal problems and wanted to get back together. I agreed and we are together for 2 weeks. Now i dont feel secure in the relationship and i am constantly worried he is going to dump me again. He promised he wont do that again, but i couldnt make myself believe him. We usually talk in a daily basis i.e. he calls me / i call him. We havent met in person for a month since he lives in a different city now. He said he'll visit me soon, but keep on postponing. I am divorcee and elder to him by 3 years. We talked about me being elder to him, but he is not very concerned about the age difference. I dont know whether i need to go on with this relationship, am really not feeling secure anymore. Someone please advice.
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reader, bluebonnet +, writes (20 May 2010):
I think maybe this man is unavailable for a complete relationship. I think he likes you but likes very much that he is in a different city and therefore nothing much is required of him. I am a divorcee also and I know the feeling of alone-ness and the possibility it may become permanent. but really, you are alone in this relationship anyway. I say, get back out there and find someone who has everything to offer and is looking for a full relationship.
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reader, RyanS  +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Important question first: Do you love him? While he is with you, does he make you happy? Does he make you laugh?
If you are saying no to the above, then you deserve a better partner. Don't take him back just because he wants to come back. Take him back if you want him back.
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (20 May 2010):
 Let us review: A.)You live in constant angst that he may without courtesy or warning dump you again. B.) You indicate that you don't believe what he says, which is only saying "I don't trust this guy anymore" C.) He keeps postponing facetime. D.) You no longer feel secure.
I believe you've listed some very convincing reasons why you should NOT continue torturing yourself with this relationship.
I see nothing here to suggest that you're actually getting anything positive or uplifting out of any form of involvement with this guy. Angst. Lack of trust. No security.
You've convinced me thoroughly of why you needn't bother with this man.
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