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female
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30-35,
*lowerpower1
writes:Hey,I've never done this before, but I just have a question. I've recently "split up" with my fuck buddy, and it broke my heart, because I started being in love with him, and as soon as I told him, he started withdrawing and not returning my calls, until I had to break up with him. Horrible time!Anyway, I've just started sleeping with this guy from Madrid who is 10 years older than me. And I really like him, but he is gonna go back to Madrid in 4 months time and he says he doesn't want anything serious. Thing is, I don't think I am made for the fuck buddy concept. I already feel like, I want to have more. So my question is, is it possible for him to change his mind? Because we have chemistry even when we're not in bed. And I'd be willing ot either try a long distance relationship or go to Madrid with him for a month to try it out. Any suggestions? Because I certainly do not want my heart to be broken again! Thanks
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reader, honestman  +, writes (5 April 2011):
I don't think that guy from Madrid is interesting in a LDR. He already told you that he don't want something serious. Take his word as a fact.Now that you have experienced what being a fuckbuddy is, and you know that eventually you fall in love with the guy, and you found out that you want a serious relationship, I think it is time for you to start looking for a long term relationship.You won't believe how well it feels to trust someone. You can be even more intimate, and feel that connection you are longing for. And the best part? If you have chemistry with your partner, it might even turn into a marriage! Being in a FWB you run into the risk of investing time/effort/emotional energy, and then all of a sudden, your partner might change his mind or change fuckbuddy, and you are left alone, with your feelings still hanging. I don't say that this does not happen in long term relationships, but at least in long term relationships you have the right for ask more things from the relationship.
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