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writes:my boyfriend always accuses me of cheating. i have have done everything i think i can to show him i would never ever do that. i have tried begging for him to beleive me, told him all my secrets to get trust, been 100% honest about my past, alot of sex, and gifts. what can i do to make him realize i would never do that? Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (2 January 2010): Dump him. He has issues that you can't even begin to deal with. It doesn't matter what you do; for whatever reason he is never going to trust you. Stop wasting your time trying to pacify him and go find a real man.
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reader, anonymous, writes (30 December 2009): I agree with Country Woman. He sounds like a control freak. Get out while you still can.
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reader, Country Woman  +, writes (30 December 2009):
 Unfortunately sweetheart this is not YOUR issue it is his.
He is insecure and keeps on testing you which is just not right.
If you want to push someone away, then it is the easiest way to do it as someone will only take so much before they snap.
You have bent over backwards to prove you are not a cheater and I wonder if he is proportioning blame on you instead of looking at himself.
It is so much easier to pass the buck (so to speak) than actually deal with our own issues.
If someone is not god's gift and they are with someone they think is better than themselves, they constantly seem to try and pinch themselves that they are this lucky to be with someone so wonderful.
Has your bf ever cheated btw? I just wonder as he either has to make a choice at the end of the day to either stop this behaviour and trust you or let you go free.
I know you probably love him to bits but this is not a healthy relationship sweetheart.
No one can live under that sort of pressure day in day out.
Something has to give at some point.
You cannot do anything more, talk to him and tell him it needs to stop as it is driving you insane. If he can't then he needs to address his own issues of insecurity.
Keep us posted eh!
BFN
Country Woman
P.S. Maybe he has been hurt in the past by a previous gf, but you are not that same person so he needs to realise that.
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