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writes:What do I do?I've been with my 'boyfriend' for almost 5 years. I love him and he says he loves me! But, and it's a big one...I've never met his friends, he seens to 'jump' when his ex says 'jump'. This I understand as they have three children together, however I feel so let out, abandoned, whatever...We see each other every two weeks or so...and usually for only one night. I have stayed at his home, so I guess I'm not a 'mistress', or am I?I want more, I'm 40....am I wasting my time? With a total commitmentphobe? For info..He's beem married before, in his 20's and a long term relationship with his ex, 16 years..Please help..Am so fed up and feeling lonely....
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionGreat to receive 3 answers from guys, who can be totally honest and give me a guys perspective.
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reader, anonymous, writes (1 October 2010): Seriously dump him. Do you wnat to spend the rest of your life with a guy who only wants to spend one night every two weeks with you? You're already fed up, it's only going to get worse.
And are you sure that's his ex? Is he spending the other 13 nights with her? Why haven't you met his family? Perhaps because they think he's still with her?
Really, he's not that into you, otherwise he'd be spending every night with you.
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reader, Aphid  +, writes (30 September 2010):
Time for a ultimatum.Seriously, you don't have time for this guy in your life.You will need to be strong with this ultimatum, make sure you decide in advance if you are going to give him any chances beyond the first ultimatum (recommend not more than 1!)
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (30 September 2010):
After 5 years, I'd be expecting so much more than one night together every two weeks. I'd also be fed up and lonely because of this. I do think you'd be better moving on from him and finding someone who will commit. He's either not really over his ex, or is now a total commitment phobe because of the breakdown of his marriage. Please let him go and find yourself a guy who will treat you better than he is.
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