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30-35,
anonymous
writes:Ok so, me and my boyfriend have been together two 1/2 years. Everything about him fits me like a puzzle piece. The only problem is that...I'm like never turned on. I never want to have sex, and even if we do start fooling around I have to use lube to even get 'wet' enough. Now, this is not to say the sex is bad, it isn't. I truly do enjoy it when we do have sex (about once a month if that). I don't know what's wrong with me, I don't think I've always been like this...What could be the problem?PS: I also think he's feeling insecure about himself and thinks I may not be attracted to him. :(
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reader, JustHelpinAgain  +, writes (31 August 2012):
Are you taking the pill? This killed libido for one ex gf. Might be worth talking to your doc. I would suggest a lady doc would probably relate better. Otherwise look at your lifestyle, are you find quality time for your relationship? After a while the lust for a partner has to be replaced with a loving comfortableness where you need to make your own fun. Check your diet too. Good luck.
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reader, Stayc63088 +, writes (31 August 2012):
 How long has this been going on? Do you do sufficient foreplay or do you try to go right into sex? I found myself losing all interest at one point in time for a few months when I was depressed/stressed about things going on in my life. I also have lost interest when foreplay did nothing for me anymore. We were going into sex the same way each time and I got bored and no longer craved it. We had to communicate and mix it up and try new and different things which started to get me turned on again like my old self. Sex needs to still be passionate and interesting to hold your attention. When it becomes dull and stale it is no surprise you aren't getting turned on or wanting it. Do you ever try new methods of foreplay or experiment with anything? Or do you think it is stress with something going on in your life right now?
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