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writes:Hey, I’ll cut straight to the point. I have two problems. I’ll start with the low libido soon. I feel like I’m never in the mood for sex or anything else. It frustrates me as my girlfriend looks amazing and I feel as if I’m insulting her by not being in the mood.My second problem is getting an erection. When ever we are fooling around I’ll think to myself I have to get one, but it comes natural and isn’t something I think of to get, I know that but I can’t help it. It’s like a down spiral. I always feel guilty on my girlfriend.
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reader, Tisha-1  +, writes (15 August 2008):
 I agree with PaSpa that you are putting too much pressure on yourself, both worrying about the 'low' libido and also getting an erection. Sex should be an expression of love between two people, as well as all the other stuff that comes with it. It should also be fun! Sounds to me that you've lost the sense of fun and giddiness that comes with fooling around, you've made it deadly serious now and a source of anxiety. So give yourself permission NOT to do anything you don't want to do. Don't push it.
Out of curiousity, is your girlfriend of legal age? If she's not, maybe you realize on some level that she's too young still, despite how she looks.
As far as feeling guilty or frustrated by this, what does your girlfriend think about it? If she's fine with how things are, then you're really wasting your time worrying. Maybe you're just a wee bit too intense? Lighten up, see the bright side of things. You have an amazing and beautiful girlfriend. Why beat yourself up about this? Enjoy spending time with her, relax and don't push yourself to do anything you don't want to do.
Good luck.
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reader, PaSpa +, writes (14 August 2008):
It sounds to me that you're putting too much pressure on yourself. Maybe you are rushing things a bit. You could be the type who needs more foreplay or perhaps a certain type of touch. Recall thoughts and fantasies that you have that turn you on when you're girlfriend isn't around. Perhaps these elements are missing when the two of you are together. Maybe a woman's good looks aren't what do the trick for you. I hope this has been helpful. :)
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