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*ndianaGuy
writes:I have gotten involved with a girl from work. At first we were just friends, but last week she was hinting that it was something more. Yesterday she told me flat out that she really liked me ever since we started working together. I know it's not wise to get involved with a co-worker, but that's not the problem. As I like her a lot too, but only as a friend, I am moving to another state to attend school in a few weeks. I don't want to break her heart. As said, I love being her friend, we have a lot of fun together, but I really don't want it to go beyond that now that I'm moving. I will keep in touch with her and visit occasionally. She really wants me to "stay single for her" I told her I don't want a long distance relationship, but I really want her to know that I just want to be friends. What should I do, what do I tell her. I don't want to hurt her, she is divorced and she doesn’t need any more grief. -IndianaGuyPS I'm 20 and she's 28 but age isn’t really a factor.
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reader, cd206  +, writes (11 May 2007):
 It's very noble of you not wanting to hurt her by telling the truth but you're likely to hurt her much more in the long term by not being straight with her. You don't need to tell her you're not interested in a nasty way... just tell her you think she's such a special person but that since you're moving away you feel like your time has passed and it'd be better to move onto other people and that you'd hate to lose her friendship but don't feel you can be with anyone right now. Hopefully she'll manage to cope although she might be a little upset for a few days. It's best to be truthful now than let her hang onto a dream that might never happen.
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