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writes:I have just got braces and I am 28 and I have never had much confidence and it has taken me a while to do this but they are horrible and I feel really ugly and I am frightened to go out and I don't want to go back to work. I knew they wouldn't look good but they are worse than what I thought they are all up and down ad it looks real bad. Plus there is a guy that I had sort of been seeing at work and he doesn't know that I was doing this and I worried what he will think. As I said I don't have much confidence and it had taken me a long time to get this done and I know I shouldn't care what people think but I do and always have done. The main reason for me doing this is because my last boyfriend said my teeth were really bad and he would never get his photo taken with me and since him I have never had a proper boyfriend and that was years ago.I really don't want to leave the house, it looks so bad and because they are so up and down (I thought the wire would be straight) I can't really hide it when I speak.
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reader, anonymous, writes (4 June 2010): Look into switching your braces out for Lingual Braces. Its the same thing, but they put it on the INSIDE of your teeth instead of the outside. So you can straighten your teeth, and nobody will see it :]
I had braces as well, and they totally turned me into a hermit until I, like someone else said before, developed a sense of humor about it. Called myself a "total G [gangster] with 32 silvers." Just keep a light air about them, it helped me get over mine - should do the same for you!
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): think of how beautiful they'll look when they come off.
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reader, Duckyhelp +, writes (28 May 2010):
 just think, those people who DO judge you for your teeth right now will feel stupid in about a years time when your braces are off. you will have amazing teeth and soon you wont even think about them. right now they look and feel bad, but, it will become normal to you. you have to get on with life, if you are confident with yourself, noone will comment on them :)
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reader, YouWish  +, writes (28 May 2010):
 I had braces too and I hated them. I love what my teeth look like now because of them! I know it totally sucks having to walk about being a metal mouth, and it changes the way you sound when you talk.
The trick is to take them lightly, and even use humor about them to your advantage. It's kinda like being able to laugh at yourself when you stumble and fall. If there's one thing guys *love*, it's poise and confidence. You're not ugly with braces, you just have braces. Having a sense of humor about them will do you WONDERS. :)
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reader, BunnyTee +, writes (28 May 2010):
 Have you asked your orthodontist what you can do to make them feel or look more attractive?
I have a friend roughly your age who elected to get braces, but she chose electric-lime green wires(!) Imagine what she dealt with when people saw lime green on her teeth! She, held her head up, stuck by her choice to invest in herself regardless of who might think what.
Now she has the most amazingly perfect smile. Moral: her investment paid off and she still deals with attention being attracted to her teeth, but not for the same reasons.
Trust your choice! Self confidence is no match for exterior looks.
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 May 2010): Its not forever - just for 2 years and so far you are at the start of this teeth journey, once your teeth start to even out and do what the dentist wants then he/she might put more traditional looking braces on you. This happened to me when i was 19, terrible wonky all over my mouth braces that as treatment progressed looked more normal. No one will think less of you and if they do, screw them cos this is for you. Its amazing the confidence one can gain by just having a nicer smile - keep with it and if anyone says anything then they are not worth your time and soon to be beautiful smile :) Maybe give the guy the heads up if your are worried over his reaction, just mention you got them matter over factly. If looks like it doesn't bother you then it won't bother others too.
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