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writes:Okay well, me and my boyfriend of 4 months have had a really good relationship.The only thing that bothers me now is that other guys are noticing me too and are flirting with me and giving me compliments and stuff like that. There's one guy in particular, I've known him for the best part of 8 years and I had a crush on him since I was 8 but because of the two year age gap he moved to secondary school and didn't see him for two years but then when I went to the same school as him my crush for him continued. He always knew that I liked him and to really annoy me he used to date my best friends and totally ignore me. When I hit 14 he left school and took a sudden interest in me and started flirting with me and we started doing stuff with each other but then he got a girlfriend and through the 2 years from when he left school, the only time he comes over is when he splits with his gf.But the point of the question is that yesterday he offered to go out and just have a chat. And that's what we did but he didn't just chat with me he really flirted with me and suggested stuff when he knew I was with someone. So he guilt tripped me and it sent me to tears because I know that I liked him but I wouldn't cheat on my current boyfriend coz I love him.So the question is, what should I do? I feel as if I'm missing out on so much coz I'm with someone but I don't want to leave my boyfriend coz he means so much...Please help!
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reader, anonymous, writes (16 August 2007): The guy you have the crush on is basically using you. You mentioned that he comes around whenever he splits with his girlfriend. Forget about him. I know it might be rough but it's best for you.
If you really love your current boyfriend then stay with him.
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reader, somewhat_anonymous  +, writes (16 August 2007):
Forget about the older guy. He's playing a game. Maybe he wants what he cannot have or shouldn't have as you are with someone now.
Never leave something good behind on a "what if?" basis.
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): hi hun, are you sure this guy is going to ask you out, at the moment his just playing with your heart you have a boyfriend who loves you are you sure you want to give up a great relationship with this guy who just wants his kicks and will probably just ditch you once you've ditched your boyfriend he just wants to see you get hurt, well dont let him stay away from him hes bad news good luck hope this helps
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reader, anonymous, writes (15 August 2007): The "other guy" is a head trip! He's been toying with your emotions for, how many years? Eight? Sounds immature and selfish to me. You're missing out on a few cheap thrills with him, at best. You need to get over your obsession and stick with your boyfriend, I think you'll be happy you did.
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reader, xXx xXx +, writes (15 August 2007):
No, I've done this before and believe me its just a crush!! Is you boyfriend worth loosing, if you love him don't do it.Tell the other fella that your not that type of girl to cheat on you boyfriend and believe me the other fella should admire you for this and if he doesn't then he's not worth it. I know that if anything did go wrong with mine then I know that the other fella would be waiting for me to give it a go. But trust me don't tempt Fate stick with the one you love and if your not a cheating type then don't cheat. once again if the other fellas is worth his word then he'll back off and carry on admiring you until your ready.Good luck, take care!
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