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writes:I dont know where to start. my best friend and i fell in love and have been friends for 7 years (we were a couple for 3 years). his family didnt approve of the relationship so we decided to call it quits but remain friends. i got married 3 years ago and he supported me even though it hurt him. but i had to do what i had to do and move on. now 3 years on he is still single and we both have feelings for one another still. i feel awful as i am married and he cant move on - maybe it was a mistake to keep in touch. but my best friend means a lot to me and vice versa. i cant imagine him being with someone else and nor can he. we are back to square one and i guess i need to hear what i am thinking, which is that we need to let each other go - we still can't seem to do it. help.
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reader, CaringGuy +, writes (13 November 2010):
You have a choice, and you need to make it because your husband is going to get hurt for no good reason.
You are either in this marriage, or you are not. That's your choice. It was a huge mistake to keep in contact with him, and a huge mistake to get married knowing you still felt this way. Now you have to step up and make tough decisions. Either you love your husband enough to make this marriage work, in which case you need to cut contact with this friend permanently. Or, you end your marriage and take your chance with this other guy.
Sit down, alone, and decide which guy it is that you love. Then make your decision. But please do this soon. You either cut contact with this guy and focus on your marriage, or you end it with your husband.
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