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writes:i have this problem i have been married for nine years now,which were not always happy times.20 years ago i dated this guy in the 9th grade. i knew then he would be the one for me, but we some how loss contact with each other,bot never broke up. i thought about him on a regular bases. and recently saw him at the gym. we start talking again on our cell phone.he is not married, but his girlfriend stay with him.my marriage has pretty much ended already. but we still love each other.this guy is the love of my life and i am the love of his. we never had a sexual relationship back then,but we want one now.we both never stop loving each other,as a matter of fact he move to my home town nine years ago looking for me. and found me nine years to late. i still love him so much,i feel like we are in high school when we talk, which is every day he get upset if we dont talk or text each other. what should i do?
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reader, anonymous, writes (28 April 2009): This is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI wrote several month ago on this topic.My boyfriend who happend to be the one my heart desired for some 21 years now. Came back in my life 1.5 ago, but i was going through some problems in my marraige,and he has been a real support system for me.as you all know he himself has a live in girlfriend with now two kids.have you ever met your soulmate before,well i did at least i think i did.when i meet him the summer night in july of 88' we greeted each other with a hand shake, and when ours hands touch i got this feeling i couldn't describe, because i never felt it before. we started dating soon after that, for about one year. it was a long distance relationship and we wher teenagers so go figure. some how we lost contact with each other, we visited each other everyother weekend.we never really broke-up. he was always in my heart and so was i in his.i always remembered the feeling i had the night we meet. to make a really long story short. we never had sex until 21yrs later, and i think it complicated our friendship, which it always does. we already was crazy about each other. remember he and i are in seperate relationship, be me and mine r not together now. he still in his. I know this man loves me unconditionally, cuz he has profess it to me almost everyday. I dont want to hurt her.How to deal with this.
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reader, rorowes +, writes (2 May 2008):
 I agree with Kimaxsi. Have you ever heard of the 80/20 concept? You leave the 80 for the 20 and end up miserable and even possibly alone. Watch the new Tyler Perry movie with Janet Jackson. It has some good marriage advise in it.
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reader, eddie  +, writes (2 May 2008):
 He moved to your home town looking for you???????? Does that really sound believable? Work on your marriage.
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reader, rorowes +, writes (1 May 2008):
You are living in the past. You need to look at this as a 30 something year old woman. Find out where your marriage is going and take care of that first. If he really loves you, he'll also do the same and THEN, and only then should the two of you persue a intimate relationship. You don't want to start off on the wrong foot, it won't last.
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