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writes: Please excuse the fact that this is rather long but i really need to get this out of my system.6 months ago our manager brought this new guy around the office to do intros etc. From the moment we shook hands, something happened, he said that he knew me from somewhere. I laughed it off. Later that day I went to ask him if he wanted to join our team for after-work drinks, he declined saying he was going home and winked at me. I was confused not knowing how to take it. Then a week later he came up to me and said he had remembered me from school and he also lived briefly around same area where I lived as a child. That day he winked at me again and patted me on the shoulder. I've tried to get him out of my mind but I just cant. I am in a marriage which is basically fizzling out, it's been going downhill even before this new guy started work. I've not got any children may I add. I am confused as I don't know what to read into his behaviour, he comes into the office, chats to me, looks me straight in the eye, (boy, do i melt then!)and winks. I so much want to get to know him but I don't want to be coming across as desperate, plus also the fact that he has a son from a previous relationship. Please can someone advise me because it is literally tearing me apart. I look forward to work, and if he isn't in his office, i get so sad and want to cry. Am I mad for thinking like this? Once again, sorry for ranting on.
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reader, anonymous, writes (12 September 2006): Man.....where are all you vulnerable "cluless" chicks at when I need to get laid.
#1. Oldest line in the book....do i know you? You fell for that?
#2. Declining your offer FOR DRINKS was BY DESIGN!!! It increases ATTRACTION....made you want it more...
#3. Women are so predictable...
MEN JUST THINK ILLOGICALLY AND YOU WILL HIT WOMEN ALL DAY LONG!!
By flowers and candy...you'll be dumb clueless husband sittin at home while your "wife" is humping the new guy!!!
Woman....you are a self-centered idiot! In 3 months when new guys done with you...you'll be on here asking why?
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reader, Sexy Sucessful Married Man +, writes (12 September 2006):
he's just as gross as the ugly dude you married....just some strange i.e. optical illusion....get a grip!
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reader, gat +, writes (12 September 2006):
 If your marriage was amazing (made you melt) as it once did i'm sure---you'd have no or not as much interest in the new guy or in general guys at work...If anything...I'd suggest you try to steam up your marriage a bit before making any drastic changes. Fix what needs to be fixed and if you can't fix it.... Get a NEW ONE !! ^_^ hope that helps.
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 hey hun
im sorry to hear your feeling so confused!
you talk briefly about your marraige fizzling out.
i think that you need to sort this out first and formost
decide wat you wanna do there are counciling options etc
in the end only you know in ur heart if you can and want to make your marriage work you have to do what makes you happy but remember relationships are not always easy anything worth having is worth fighting for.
i think youve become so fixated on this guy because of ur problems at home and i dont think u can truely judge ur feelings towards him till ur in a better place.
your bein thorn in so many directions.
i think sort out your home life 1st have some time 2 yourself get ur head together and then if you still feel 4 this guy take things very slow.
i dont think your mad at all your just goin through a tough time but try forget this guy 4 awhile look inside find out wat you want.
i hope this helps in some way
be strong
do wats right 4 you.
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