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writes: I have been with my boyfriend for over one year, and now i think that he is cheating on me,. I cant be sure of it but there are defiante signs that he might be, and i need some advise. He lives with me and he uses my car, when we first started dating , he lost his car due to reposession , and he did not work for a very long time.He just now recently got a good job. I pick him up from work and he takes my car and goes out to his cousins house he says. he has a very close family, he is muslim( indian ).I know all of his cousins they are very respected people. He is aquaintances with my ex boyfriend that had used me for his needs. he had told my boyfriend that i am a cheater and that i used to cheat on him all the time. my ex boyfriend was married, ther is no such thing as cheating on a married man, in my head? my boyfriends mother is having a hard time with him being with me, i guess because i am not a muslim woman? I can assure you that i love that man no matter what he is.He frequently tells me that he suspects that i am cheatiing on him,and i am not. Last night we spent the night out at the Hotel that he works at, and he told me that he is afraid that i think that he is cheating on me, because he goes out at night to his cousins house? He said that he is afraid that i am going to think that and go out and do something stupid and cheat on him? To me , i think that is guilty conscience, if ive ever heard one? Please .. i need some andwers i want to be hasppy , but i am so in love with him?
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reader, james1980 +, writes (11 September 2006):
Sounds difficult, I would say he is scared of losing you to another man, there is always a chance he is cheating but give him the benefit of the doubt until you know for sure, try talking to him (carefuly) about your concerns. try not to make him jealous, it may be he adores you so mush its the fear of losing u that hurts him. Good Luck x
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reader, Ponungalungb  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 Hi. "A beautiful mind" is a terrible thing to waste.
You don't say how old you are but I'm guessing you're fairly young. . . probably too young to be living with your boyfriend. You also have too many issues: You've got his mother that doesn't want you seeing her son; you've got a boyfriend who doesn't sound too responsible; you've got conflicts of religious beliefs; and you've got issues about trusting one another.
If I were a football coach, I'd say PUNT! You need to start over, because I think this relationship is doomed.
Good luck!
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reader, sugapuff  +, writes (11 September 2006):
 hey there!
it is a worrying sign hes suddenly accusing you!
has he given any reasons he thinks you might cheat?
asides from cause you think hes cheating!which u say u never said!
all you can do is try have an open honest conversation with him about why hes suddenly so obseesed with cheating!
maybe hes just feeling paranoid or he heard or saw something that made him suspicious!
just do ur best to have a heart to heart tho unfortunatly if he is cheating he probably will lie but trust ur judgement when u talk you know him a gud while if you feel hes not being honest tell him!and say all u want is the truth.
"He is aquaintances with my ex boyfriend that had used me for his needs. he had told my boyfriend that i am a cheater and that i used to cheat on him all the time. my ex boyfriend was married, ther is no such thing as cheating on a married man, in my head? "
im a little confused about this part so ur ex boyfriend was a married man and he has told ur boyfriend u are a cheat. i understand how u dont see it as cheating, but i take it u were with other guys at this time?
i think this my be the source of ur boyfriends current worrys about you cheating,
but can u think of any reason he would think ur worried hes cheating?
feel free to mail me further about this but i definatly think a gud long open and honest talk is needed between u guys!
good luck
i hope i helped in some way!
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