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writes: hi im a married women about three weeks ago we all were having a few drinks at my house a few of my friends and my cousins where there when everyone went to bed my cousin asked me to stay up to help him with the computer after awhile he was getting all weird with me. asked him what was wrong,what ye dont know is that we grew up together as friends even though im years older and he told me that he was very upset when i got pregnant on my first child cause i stopped hanging around with him. anyway we fooled around that night but were stopped from doing anything as my husband came home. about 2 weeks later him came up and we slept together while my husband was up stairs i have not seen him since but we are all off to germany next week for my brothers wedding and will be around him for a coulpe of days and really worried if something is going to happen again help
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): the sleeping with cousin is alright i guess cause everyone is attracted to a cousin sometime in their life, and its sometimes an over welming lust.. but to do it behind your husband back is wrong.. you should have done it before you got married, cause it will keep happening unless you sort it out
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reader, anonymous, writes (27 April 2008): yer im not really concerned about the cousin issue, cause everyone fancys there cousin sometim ein their life, and are sexually actracted to them.. its just the way it is... but what worrys me is you cheated on your husband...
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 November 2007): Not being funny, but me and my cousin, like your self grew up together, and as children we would kiss and as we got older this stopped but now we are both in our thirties and flirt like mad with each other. and I think that we will have sex one day. We have had many a drunken chat about it but nothing has happened Yet! But I don't think there is anything wrong with it. It's about your conscience with your husband. But hey who needs to know! :0)
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2006): hi i think you should choose who u like the best tell your husband and say im sorry i didnt know what i was doing then hopefully he will forgive you but wich 1 suits you you decide.
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reader, anonymous, writes (19 April 2006): i think you should come clear with your husband and hopefully just tell him you learnt your lesson i hope everthing goes to plan i use to like my cousin too.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 March 2006): I THINK THAT YOU WAS MAYBE IN A RUTT WITH THE RELATIONSHIP WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND AS YOU HAVE KNOWN YOUR COUSIN YOU MUST HAVE FOUND IT NOT LIKE CHEATING ON YOUR HUSBAND.BUT ALL CHEATING IS WRONG AND AS YOU HAVE NOT SEEN YOUR COUSIN SINCE HE MUST THINK IT WAS WRONG AND A MISTAKE.BUT ONCE FORBIDDEN FRUIT HAS BEEN TASTED YOU MAY FIND YOURSELF THERE AGAIN IN THE FUTURE.
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reader, Sexybum  +, writes (23 March 2006):
 UGGGHHH - I think thats pretty disgraceful, take it you like being deceitful to your HUSBAND, I think you've shown that you don't even have a slight bit of decency by admitting it to him. You are a completely untrustworthy person (there are words I can't type) and I think it turns you on, you are proud of it, I think people like you should just be honest to everyone and then live your life how you please, you don't deserve a husband, you're very two-faced.
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reader, anonymous, writes (20 March 2006): well guys im back from germany and he was all weird with me he was very quiet around me to the point it was looking funny that the rest of the family wouuld notice something so on the last nite i pulled him on it we went up stairs where there was a table and we talked about everything family his mam who has passed away wot he wanted to do with his life etc. we were going down stairs all nite together to the toilets and it was like down in a celler and it was really dark after about the third time doing this he was waiting for me outside as he was doing all nite but this time he just pulled me towards him and we just did it there and then on the stairs it was the best i have ever had. when we went back up stairs the first thing he said was he taught we should not do it any more im confused i know ye all said that i should just not do it with him and i was not going to but he started it and i could not say no now i cant get it out of my head he was amazing bye for now smiles.
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 March 2006): hi guys thank you all for taking the time to answer me every thing ye have said makes perfect sense i wont be telling my husband but im not going to drink while im away and im going to avoid my cousin thanks again. smiles
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reader, anonymous, writes (7 March 2006): well, this is certainly one of the situations that you would hear about on the jerry springer show. i really feel sorry for your husband because if the truth comes out just think about how devistated and totally crushed he is going to be. Please for the sake of your family and your husband dont let this go any further, you have already created so much damage,you have the choice if you want to go any further with this but really you need to stop now, like what would happen if you became pregnant? think about what your doing and stop being selfish. you need to tell your husband of what has happen and what you have done, his the one that has the choice then if he wants to stay with you. i really dont feel sorry for you as you were the one that has put yourself in this situation and you know what your doing is wrong, i agree with sexybum start beggin for forgiveness now and prove to your husband you will not do this again.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2006): My mom married her first cousin and they were together as husband and wife for about 5 years. Needless to say, there was a big uproar within the family over it all and when they split up it destroyed two sides of the family. My mom says she misses having him as her cousin and wishes she had never done that. Her mom (my grandma) doesn't even talk to her brother anymore (the cousin's father) over the whole thing and we stopped having family reunions because it became so uncomfortable. If you love your cousin, stop this now before it ruins your close relationship with him and hurts other members of your family, especially your husband! I think you should stop talking to him for a while to get over the whole thing and then later on you can try to rebuild your relationship as it should be - strictly cousins! Maybe you should find a way to come up sick this weekend to avoid seeing him for now... If you let this go ANY FURTHER whatsoever, you risk really screwing things up in your life for good.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2006): I concur with missbunbury. It comes down to life choices and how we have the ability to be mature, responsible people and utilize the best choices, that come our way. Sounds like you are bored and lonely in your marriage because sex with a forbidden lover is a pretty irresponsible thing to do. You need to take into consideration, how sex with your cousin (or any lover) will impact your whole family, if it's ever found out about. As adults, we all have to make mature choices in what we do and how we behave. No matter what you decide to do with this cousin of yours. you have to remember, only 'you' will be control of your decisions, here which makes you responsible for your own actions. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how you and other people will affect your life, your marriage. Think about that and do the right thing, hun. A deeper look at the choices and their long-term consequences might help you here. No one has the right to 'act out' in a marriage and tear other peoples lives apart. Take the energies you expend in thinking about this cousin and perhaps open your heart to talking about your own marriage problems with your husband. Good luck
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reader, smeedle +, writes (6 March 2006):
 Ok, so you know what you did is wrong but you dont want to stop do you, I think you enjoyed the attention and let us face it, you were stopped the first time but made sure it happened the second time.
You know what damage you can and have done, you know sleeping with your cousin is wrong, you know your husband and kids would be so upset if you were caught but still the pull to have sex with your cousin is greater than your want to keep your family.
You really do need to stop and think, but again you know this, you are not saying that you dont want to have sex because you hated it with this cousin, what you are saying is that you like it too much and are seriously doubting your sexual love for your partner.
You in a nut shell want your cake and eat it, the excitment and pull is very strong, you risked your marriage by having sex whilst your husband and kids were asleep up stairs.
So what is going to stop you having sex in Germany, in short the answer is nothing!!
What you need to do is take a look at your life, take stock and think about what you have and what you could loose and is it worth it for the wild sex you have with your cousin.
If it is then nothing any of us say to you will change that and you will continue the affair until it fizzles out or you are caught.
If you decide you have got more to loose and want it to stop then just do not have sex with him again, tell him that and say it like you mean it!!
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reader, missbunbury +, writes (6 March 2006):
 Realistically, something is only going to happen in Germany if YOU want it to happen. You don't mention whether you're happy with your husband, but whether you are or not, you should really think about your recent actions - you haven't behaved very well, and if you aren't able to control your behaviour you are going to end up with a marriage in trouble. If you want your marriage to work, the very first rule is that no matter how exciting or forbidden or new or gorgeous or kind or wonderful or familiar some other guy is, you don't go near him. That's it. Yes, we all make mistakes, but something is only a 'mistake' the first time it happens, and you've already cheated twice with the same guy. If you're unhappy with your husband, it's not really fair to project that unhappiness onto another guy, especially one who you're likely to see regularly for the rest of your life - this could cause all sorts of family tension, so unless you are actually in love with this cousin I would advise you to steer well clear. I can offer a certain amount of practical advice - don't drink dring your trip, at all; don't be alone with this cousin at any time; don't tell any other family members about this in case they spread the word . Apart from that though, this one is all up to you.
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reader, anonymous, writes (6 March 2006): Are you really worried that 'something will happen' or do you want 'something to happen'? All you have to do is decide is whether you want to fuck your cousin or not. If you dont, you say 'no'. If you do, then you say 'yes' and you take the consequences. Nothing is going to happen unless you want it to happen.
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reader, Sexybum +, writes (6 March 2006):
Do you realise how bad this is!?!?Lets put it into some perspective for you.Imagine you have two children and they have kids that sleep with each other. Imagine your grandchildren sleeping with each other. I think its disgusting that you can sleep with someone else while your husband is UPSTAIRS! Let alone the fact that that soemone else is a member of YOUR FAMILY.If you can cheat like that then I really don't think you deserve to be married. Put it this way when you married your husband you made certain promises to him, which you have just broken! If your going to do anything about this situation then stop thinking about yourself and start thinking about all the other people taht have a right to know EXACTLY what you have done.You need to confess to your husband and let him decide if he still wants you or not. Although I really don't thinkl you deserve him, nows the time to start begging for forgiveness.
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