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*elindam40
writes:Iam married and have fallen in love with another guy, this relationship has been going on for 11 months, problem is I told my boyfriend I was seperated, how can I now tell him the truth, without losng him. Reply to this Question
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): you say you are not normally deceitful ....but you are having an affair and you have been lying about the state of your marriage. seems pretty deceitful to me!
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reader, belindam40 +, writes (10 January 2010):
belindam40 is verified as being by the original poster of the questionI have told the boyfriend and the husband, utter chaos really but the right thing to do, you were all right I had to be honest, just got to get on with my life, my marriage has been over a long time so the boyf was the wake up call I needed, he is very hurt but wants some tine to think ,I am not normally a deceitful person and tellign them was very hard, but a relief. thanks for the answers
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): You are lying about one of the most important things in your life. Now make it come true, get separated! Once you start the process, tell him... that is one way possibly not to lose him. Even if you do, at least you'd have the satisfaction of finally coming clean.
Or get out of his life. He will probably never be able to trust anyone for a long time but hey, that is his problem.
Or you could continue lying. After all, you have been able to do it pretty well for the past year.
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reader, megan1378  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 well first of all you had to have loved the man you married first. get rid of the boyfriend and do the right thing stay with your husband and tell him that yall need to get back to the way it use to be
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reader, anonymous, writes (10 January 2010): If you truly love him, you should have been honest with him at the very beginning. There is no way you can tell him without hurting him. If he is a very understanding person he will forgive you and then you both will have to see what happens from there. The way you treated him just goes to show how little you respect him, and that's what's going to hurt him the most.
The truth will hurt, but eventually the pain will heal and the person can grow from the incident.
Lying just causes pain, continually and will always be painful to yourself and everyone else around you. Have you even thought or consider telling your husband. What of his feelings?
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