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writes:I'm afraid of losing my best guy friend. I've loved him forever and been afraid to tell him for fear of losing him, maybe just fear it wont be recepricated. We spend a lot of time together always have, I tell him almost everything, not this. He's had a gf, now engaged and I fear what will become of it. If our relationship will change. Friends encourage me to tell him, but its that fear factor again of losing him all together. His relationship doesnt make sense and I'm really down that I cant talk to him about it. Wish there was an easier way.Advice.
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reader, anonymous, writes (25 January 2010): PLEASE tell him ,, i too had this problem i am in love with my best guy friend and i tld him and he feels the same way about me ,, chances are he feels the same way about you too , i was jus so scared to mess up our friend but it made it way way better , and if you dont tell him you will regret it every second ,, i wis i would have tld my best friend sooner now my situation is a lil more sticky ,, lol
But i think you should tell him cause chances are he feels the same way or he probably already knows jus waitin on you to say something ,
TAKE A CHANCE ON LOVE ,, !!!!!
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reader, r_a_w_r1645 +, writes (10 January 2010):
 i think u should go for it! just tell him. cuz then ull never really tell him how u feel and ull regret it ur whole life. i know u think ur gona loose ur relationship with him but i bet he'll realize he wants to be with u once he knows that. and if he does freak and leave, he obviously isnt mature enough. just plzzz go for it.
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reader, boo22  +, writes (10 January 2010):
 If it's worth it to you to not tell him in order to not lose him then don't tell him.
I don't see what you'll gain by telling him.
By your post i sense that this is tormenting you, but obviously not enough to take the risk.
By the way, i don't think that if you told him you'd lose him as a friend. Sure, it'd be really awkward for a while, but if he cares, you'll be back in touch at some stage.
Why do you think if you told him and he didn't feel the same that you won't see him again?
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reader, anonymous, writes (9 January 2010): he's proposed to this girl for a reason...he mayb loves her. ur going to lose him no matter what. when he marrys her they share things use don't and that makes her more of a best friend to him. so if u really do love him then tell him, esp if u think he is doing the wrong thing. he might have feelings for u and think u don't feel the same way. Just remember someone is going to get hurt and be 100% sure in what u r doing x
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