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*mma123454
writes:I am still love struck for my secret love he is smart funny and makes me laugh I need to tell him I like him in some way I cant hide it anymore it bugging me what should I do? we hang out all the time and whenever we are around his sisters they think I'm not listening and ask if we're dating everyone does and soon I hope to say yes Reply to this Question
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reader, helpishereandnear  +, writes (21 April 2015):
Hello there,
I remember having crushes when I was your age and not knowing how to tell them. Alot of the time, because of this worry I never did tell them and always watched them end up with my friends I had also never told. Therefore, If I could go back and give myself advice.. I would say just take the risk and talk to them on their own. Even if it means online or just gradually starting to see them on their own more and then telling them. I know it's hard but I am now married with a little boy and I'm very happy so if it doesn't work out, then you know that this person is clearly not the one for you and you should find comfort in knowing that they are out there. x
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reader, Fatherly Advice +, writes (21 April 2015):
 emma,
Thanks for crating an account. It gives us aunts and uncles some reassurance that you will be back to read what we write.
Secret love is a ticklish situation for someone your age. I think it is an experience that is so common that it is like a right of passage. Most of these crushes live and die without the object person ever knowing. So you have had these feelings for quite some time now and you think it is time do share them with him. I think you are probably right in thinking that. I'm sure you understand that there is a big risk that he will not share your feelings, or decline your invitation to pursue a relationship. Taking that risk is a big part of growing up, and no matter what happens you will learn from it.
So, How to do it? (dusting the cobwebs from my memory) What I remembered that worked well were small gestures. Like choosing to sit next to him. Smiling, Winking, flirting, all these are just permission for him to return the attention. I had one girl splash me deliberately at a swimming pool, like 5 times (I was a little slow to catch on). I think that this is kind of close to the creepy stalker line. It did work for her. We had a LDR for quite some time and even one date. Don't bake him a cake or ask him to girls choice or some other grand gesture. Just let him know you would like to spend more time with him.
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