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writes: My boyfriend and I have been dating for almost two years now. I absolutely love him with all my heart. The only problem is that lately we've barely been talking. He works nights and I'm asleep when he's awake and vice versa. Right now we are living two hours away from each other so I miss him terribly. I feel like everytime I call him he'll only talk to me for ten or twenty minutes before getting off the phone. I really am feeling lonely and missing him but evertime I call, hoping to talk for at least an hour, he gets off the phone.I also am missing his face so have asked him repeatedly if he'll get on the webcam with me. He keeps refusing. I'm feeling really sad about all this.I feel like we don't talk anymore and when we do talk there are long silences and repeated words. I don't know how to make this better. I love him very much but am feeling he's too busy to talk with me.When I call he says he is missing me also but if he's missing me why does he get off the phone so quick? Today I called and woke him up. It was 7 pm so I figured he would have been awake. We talked for a few minutes and I could tell he was falling asleep. I said we could get of if he wanted. He said he was fine but then two minutes later he said bye? Did I miss something? I was suprised and disappointed when he hung up. We talked for about ten minutes. Reply to this Question
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reader, tennisstar88  +, writes (27 August 2010):
 Guys aren't phone talkers, they prefer text or if they have to be on the phone they keep it at a max of 13 minutes even that's too long for some. For them they don't have much to say or absolutely hate it. I also understand where he's coming from on being tired from working nights, you get off when everyone is going to work, and you crash into bed and often don't get up till you have to go back in. How's his communication on his days off? There's still some contact, it's better than nothing but do understand how tired he is. You guys live 2 hours apart, have you ever suggested moving in together? In a LDR, eventually someone has to give and move to be with the other..I married mine and moved. If he knocks that idea which I don't see why not you have already been together 2 years, then talk to him about middle ground on the communication that's what is key in a LDR. Tell him you understand he's tired but you miss him and can't see him right now so the next best thing would be texting, or to webcam with you..he can at least put a little effort into that..
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